Today in things that make us scream incoherently
A little while ago we posted a video making a joke out of the stereotypical but not universally true awkwardness of male geeks, particularly around women, and the comments on the post exploded. For every guy who came in to say, reasonably if perhaps with little humor, that all dudes aren't like that; there was a guy there to tell every woman who'd commented to say she'd known guys like that once that her personal experience and anything she'd ever done based on it was wrong. It was a clusterfuck of anecdotal experience and gendered slurs, and the only thing it really made me want to do was get all the commenters in a room and say, loudly and clearly: "I'll make a deal with all you dudes who are angry because this is how your demographic is portrayed. You let me have this one video making this one joke, and I will let you have the entire "fake geek girl" meme, comprising hundreds of jokes, many of them misogynist, that perpetuate the idea that women never do anything you like unless it is to "get attention" and then betray you when they get it. This should seem more than fair." Because that's what the idea of the "fake geek girl" is all about, right? "Oh, she's just doing that for the attention." Which, by the way, is also a thing said when women claim they've been raped, or beaten by people close to them; it's one of the foundational assumptions behind the reasoning that women lie or will lie about being raped to get abortions; it is the idea that excuses the behavior of a society that minimizes the concerns of women.