Woman Lets a Male Gynecologist Treat Her. Her First Visit Leaves Her Completely Caught off Guard: ‘I Vowed I Would Not Do’
Many people have a clear idea of the kind of doctor they want to see. For some, that preference is so strong that they never expect to change it.
That is why TikTok creator @averyncmm has caught viewers’ attention after sharing why she agreed to see a male gynecologist for the first time. She says she had always avoided doing so until she needed an appointment sooner than expected.
She did not expect the visit to change her opinion. But after leaving the appointment, she says she found herself praising the experience instead, prompting viewers to share their own stories about the doctors who proved their first impressions wrong.
That wasn’t the experience she expected
The creator says she had always promised herself she would never see a male gynecologist. “So I saw a male gynecologist the other day. This is something that I vowed I would not do,” she says. “I was like, no, I will never see a man. Why does a man want to be a gynecologist?”
She explains that she needed an appointment quickly and decided to visit the doctor because he had treated her mother for years. She says her mother had long described him as an excellent physician, which convinced her to give him a chance.
The appointment, she says, did not go the way she expected. “Can I say, honestly, that was one of the best female doctor experiences that I have had,” she says.
The creator explains that she has endometriosis and had booked the visit because she was experiencing irregular menstrual cycles and other symptoms she wanted investigated before trying for another baby. She says the doctor listened as she described everything she had been experiencing and never dismissed her concerns.
The experience reminded her of an earlier appointment with a female gynecologist before she had been diagnosed with endometriosis. She says she told that doctor she was vomiting and passing out every month because of the pain. “She said, ‘Everyone cramps,'” the creator recalls.
Her experience reflects a wider issue of women struggling to have their symptoms taken seriously. It also recalls Daisy Ridley’s healthcare problems, which many women found painfully familiar, while echoing the experiences of women who have taken it upon themselves to raise awareness about PCOS after facing delays in diagnosis and having their symptoms dismissed.
By contrast, she says the male gynecologist believed her symptoms immediately and even drew a diagram explaining what he believed was happening with her hormone levels. “He drew me a chart,” she says. “I’m obsessed with him. He drew me a chart of what a normal person does versus what he hypothesizes my body’s doing hormone-wise.”
The video quickly filled with comments from viewers sharing similar experiences. Several said they had also received respectful and compassionate care from male OB-GYNs, while others argued that a doctor’s skill is more important than their gender.
“Just imagine how much someone has to study to be a master of something they can never have any personal experience with,” one commenter wrote. “It truly is all about how good of a doctor they are and not who they are,” another added.
Another commenter, who said they had surgery for endometriosis, commented, “He is literally the best and a sweetheart. Genuinely cares for women and took endo so seriously.”
Others shared positive experiences of their own. “A male med student delivered my first. Close to the best care I’ve ever had,” one person wrote. Another added, “I have a male OB for my pregnancy and he was the one that actually delivered me as a baby. I was so nervous but he’s pretty great so far.”
(Featured Image: Screenshot via @averyncmm/TikTok)
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