Montreal woman goes out for drinks and encounters a man in his fifties who compliments her face, then asks her if she is on any weight-loss drugs
Being a woman in today’s world is complex, but being a larger woman can be even more challenging. While there is more awareness, or rather fear, around calling someone “fat,” people have found other ways to communicate their message without using the tabooed word. One common method is using backhanded compliments. If you are a bigger person, you’re probably used to hearing comments like, “You are very pretty, but you would look even prettier if you lost weight,” or similar remarks that focus heavily on your size.
TikTok user @valchoucs, who resides in Montreal, shared a similar experience in a video she posted two days ago. She describes how a man in his fifties approached her and made inappropriate comments about her appearance, specifically targeting her weight. She was caught off guard by the remark, as she was not expecting it.
TikTok user @valchoucs narrates a story of being fat-shamed
In the video she posted to her account two days ago, @valchoucs shared how she was approached by a man in his fifties when she went out for drinks. She explained that he was flirting with her and complimented her by saying she had a beautiful face. Reflecting on the compliment, @valchoucs pointed out that it was a backhanded compliment, something bigger girls often hear from people because they can’t seem to recognize that the person as a whole can be beautiful.
Anyway, after the man complimented @valchoucs on her beautiful face, he asked if she was working on anything to find a husband. Immediately afterward, @valchoucs mentioned that she was looking forward to losing some weight. Before she could finish, the man interrupted and said, “That’s exactly what I was gonna say.” Regarding the other things he said during their conversation, @valchoucs noted that he started rambling about her “potential” as a beautiful woman with a great personality, and highlighted that he suggested she should get her body right, basically, lose weight. In the video, @valchoucs also recalls that he asked if she was on any weight loss drugs. Reflecting on the whole situation and their interaction, @valchoucs says in her video that she can’t believe people are so bold as to comment on others’ weight on their faces. However, in the end, she does add that she knows she should be working on her weight and that what he said motivated her to work even harder toward achieving her goal.
TikTok user @valchoucs’s video has gained significant attention
TikTok user @valchoucs’s experience of being fat-shamed is not uncommon, and for the same reason, her story has resonated with a lot of people. Many people commented on her video. User @chantalmasb wrote, “That is not why you’re single. I don’t know you, you just showed up on my fyp. But you are not the problem girl. Society is. Don’t ever think your weight defines you or should define how people see you. They’re the issue, not you. Hope you continue feeling beautiful.” User @ commented, “GIRLLLLLL I hope that man steps on a lego barefoot. You’re beautiful – ALL OF YOU!!
User @eperaz1 stated, “No it’s rude and you should never accept that especially from a stranger! As long as you love yourself that’s all that counts. You are beautiful and funny, great combo!” User @janetorres505 mentioned, “You shouldn’t have said anything about your weight…. Never do that. You are who you are and you are worthy whatever the size.”
Fat-shaming can give rise to a lot of body image issues
Due to the stigma surrounding people’s weight, especially among those who are larger, many issues arise for the individuals affected. One of the most common problems among them is body image issues. According to the National Organization for Women:
- A study shows that at age thirteen, 53% of American girls are “unhappy with their bodies.” This increases to 78% by the time they reach seventeen.
- Fifty percent of teens are “self-conscious” about their bodies; 26.2% report feeling “dissatisfied.” By age 60, 28.7% of women feel “dissatisfied,” and 32.6% feel “self-conscious” about their bodies.
- Forty-five point five percent of teens consider cosmetic surgery, while 43.7% of women over 60 report considering it.
- When asked, “Are you happy with your body?” 43.2% of teens answered “yes,” and 37.7% of women in their 60s answered “yes.”
- Between 40% and 60% of elementary school girls are concerned about their weight or about becoming “too fat.”
- Most girls (59%) report dissatisfaction with their body shape, and 66% express a desire to lose weight.
- Forty-six percent of 9-11-year-olds are “sometimes” or “very often” on diets, and 82% of their families are “sometimes” or “very often” on diets.
- Research from Stanford University and the University of Massachusetts revealed that 70% of college women report feeling worse about their appearance after reading women’s magazines.
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