Her partner tried throwing her out of his room naked in a house with other men. When she got him kicked out of campus, his friends made her life hard
After surviving an alleged assault, she still had to deal with the aftermath.
Christine Elizabeth (@christine.elizabeth) told TikTok that she was sexually assaulted on campus by an intimate partner when she was 20 years old. But even after he was expelled, Christine said she still struggled with the aftermath.
“When I was 20 years old in college, I was SA’d,” Christine told TikTok. She explained that while she consented to have sex with her partner, Christine requested that he wear protection. She alleged that he complied until they changed positions.
“I look down, and I see that there is no protection on him anymore,” Christine claimed. She asked him about where the protection went, but the man allegedly didn’t stop. When she asked again, the man allegedly muttered, “Shut up,” under his breath.
“Now, I’m naked. I’m in a vulnerable position with a man, and I recognize that I am the smaller vessel,” Christine said. The man she was with was an athlete. Despite the difference in strength, Christine calmly told the man to stop, as she was not okay with going unprotected. However, she claimed that he told her to “shut up” again and continued. Christine, in the middle of the situation, calmly told him that STDs were going around on campus, and she just wanted to protect herself.
“At that point, he snaps. And I had never seen him or anyone that angry before,” she alleged. What happened next, she said, would traumatize her for the next decade of her life.
Allegedly assaulted in campus housing
“While I’m naked, he yanked my arm, dragged me off the bed, and started yelling at me,” Christine said. The man allegedly took her request for protection as Christine suspecting he has STDs. “If you think I got STDs, you can get the [expletive] out,” Christine recalled the man’s alleged words. She said the man kept repeating those words as he dragged her by one arm, using his other to open the door of the bedroom.
“Keep in mind, I’m still naked,” she alleged. Christine explained that the man lived with his three other basketball teammates in his campus housing. Christine didn’t know the other men personally, and she didn’t know where they were at the time. However, his teammates could be outside.
“I don’t know the character of these other men. I’m clearly only just now seeing the true character of the one I was dealing with,” Christine claimed. Struggling to stay in the room, her mind conjured the worst possible scenario. Christine feared that if her partner threw her out of his room, the other men could also assault her.
“I needed to de-escalate him,” Christine said. She put her hand on the door and told him she just needed to put her clothes on. The man was allegedly still fuming, but she was relieved he let her shut the door. She tried appeasing him, explaining calmly that she didn’t mean to offend him and that she just wanted to protect herself.
“My priority is getting out of that house safely,” she said. Christine alleged that instead of acknowledging what he did, the man started accusing her of sleeping with other people. When she finished putting her clothes back on, the man told her not to leave his room and blocked the bedroom door. He told her that he’d have pizza with the other men downstairs, then shut her inside before she could refuse. Understanding there were other men in the house, Christine thought it was unsafe to leave.
It took her a while to process the incident
When the man returned, Christine said she allowed him to get intimate with her again to avoid further altercations. She alleged that even during their second time, the man still refused to wear protection.
“It didn’t fully register to me that I’d experienced SA until several months later,” Christine said. She explained that her Caribbean identity, which encouraged her to project a strong image to the world, hampered her ability to process that she had allegedly been attacked. But when she told a couple of friends and her therapist about what had happened to her, she slowly came to terms with the alleged assault.
Coming forward isn’t easy
Eventually, Christine got a no-contact order against the man after he allegedly shoved her. She said, “It became a whole campus case. Two other women came forward with similar experiences of him removing condoms without their consent.” Christine claimed he was found guilty of violating the code of conduct and was expelled from campus.
“He told lies about me to try to change other people’s opinions about me. He used text messages between us to create a false narrative and make me look less credible,” Christine alleged. She added that his friends were allegedly complicit in the behavior, claiming that they had also bullied her on campus. Christine would go on to graduate, work on Wall Street, and focus on her thriving career. However, she didn’t immediately recognize how trauma shaped her perception of men.
“Before you get married, it might be worth examining what those experiences taught you about men—and not just who feels dangerous to you, but who feels safe to you and why,” Christine advised. Trauma, after all, has kept this woman trapped in a thirteen-year-long relationship, only for her to walk away after seeing the contents of his iPad.
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