Melbourne man pays for meal then walks out on his date after getting called an ‘attention seeker’ for wearing makeup: ‘He said he was telekinetic’
You can’t call yourself telekinetic and call someone else an attention seeker.
Melbourne’s dating scene is notoriously eclectic. But for creator TikTok/@smoothgutter, a recent rendezvous with a “telekinetic” moved past “quirky” and straight into a psychological standoff.
In a video that has intrigued 12,000 viewers, he detailed the moment a date attempted to “neg” him for his aesthetic choices. But the creator had a high-budget exit strategy to take the win at the end. His story is a masterclass in reclaiming power when a date attempts to dim your shine.
The creator’s ‘telekinetic’ date judged his makeup reveal
The date got off to a supernatural start when the creator’s companion claimed he possessed telekinetic powers. Rather than dismissing him, @smoothgutter played along. But the energy shifted when he showed a photo of himself in his signature makeup.
The self-proclaimed telekinetic looked at him straight and labeled him an “attention seeker.” But the critique immediately backfired.
Paying for the meal turned into the ultimate power move
Infuriated by the hypocrisy, the creator decided to end the night on his own terms. He noted that claiming to move objects with one’s mind is the ultimate form of attention seeking. Yet, his makeup is what the ‘telekinetic’ labelled attention seeking instead.
So, the creator performed what he called a “dramatic” exit. He paid for the entire meal and all the drinks before standing up to leave. “You can sit here and wait for it to come. You can eat by yourself,” he told his date. This left the man stunned and pleading for him to stay.
The telekinetic man’s ‘Negging’ tactic was dismantled by a healthy ego
The creator later discovered that his date was likely using “negging,” a practice of giving backhanded compliments to undermine a person’s confidence. The man had even suggested that @smoothgutter wore makeup to cover up low self-confidence.
“I have the biggest ego of all the people that I know,” the creator laughed. He proved that some “dating hacks” are no match for genuine self-assurance and a paid-off tab.
What is ‘Negging’ and why it fails?
“Negging” is a manipulation tactic popularized in “pick-up artist” communities. It is designed to make a target seek the speaker’s approval by lowering their self-esteem. However, as this Melbourne encounter illustrates, the tactic only works if the target is insecure.
When applied to someone with high self-confidence and a strong sense of personal identity, it acts as an immediate red flag. It immediately signals the speaker’s own insecurities and lack of maturity, and thus, fails.
How to handle a ‘Negging’ date with Melbourne flair
If you find yourself being criticized for your confidence during a first date, protect your peace first. As the creator noted, a person claiming to be telekinetic calling someone else an attention seeker is a clear sign of projection. Recognize that their “advice” is actually about their own needs.
Don’t waste energy trying to convince them why your makeup or hobby is valid. A simple “It’s been really nice talking to you” followed by an exit is far more impactful than an argument. Paying for the meal before walking out removes any future obligation or “financial debt” to the person.
Remember, your self-expression is yours alone. If someone suggests your confidence is a “cover,” believe in your own internal compass over their amateur psychology. We’re keeping a close watch on @smoothgutter’s TikTok for any updates on whether his telekinetic ex-date ever managed to move that unpaid-for dessert across the room.
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