Utah woman says her close friend is way too touchy with her husband. The young mom needs to know: Is their relationship too friendly?
Nothing sends TikTokers into DEFCON-1 faster than a “bestie” who can’t keep her hands off someone else’s husband.
One Utah mom shared her now-viral confession on TikTok, spilling that her close friend is constantly touching, lingering, and orbiting her husband like it’s her full-time job. She even follows him around the room when he tries to create space. The twist? This so-called touchy-feely friend is married, too. The wife insists she trusts her husband and doesn’t think he’s interested, but the viewers have other ideas.
How friendly is too friendly?
It seems that the new episode of The Real Housewives has dropped–oh wait, actually it’s the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. No, really. This is what Ashtyn Smith’s (@ashtynsmithrn) friend said they could be. Yes, the same friend who is touchy with her husband. The story all unravels when Smith posts a series of TikToks asking for advice. The first clip has 856,000 views and over 4,000 comments. Her text overlay shares: “Need advice yall. What do I do about this.”
Smith begins by saying that her friend, who is also married, is very touchy with her husband.
“Like she touches him multiple times that they’re together for like five minutes,” Smith says. She clarifies that her friend’s husband is also friends with them, so they all know each other.
In another clip, she also says their kids are friends, so she’s trying to be careful. Apparently, she feels so uncomfortable and even gets anxiety prior to hanging out with the friend.
“Even when he moves around the couch, she’ll like follow him and stand next to him,” Smith says, adding that she’s “not worried” about her husband but simply wants advice on how to deal with her friend because she’s a “good friend” and doesn’t want to lose her.
More Red Flags
In the following update clips, Smith shares a little more about the situation and how she and her husband plan to deal with it. In the second clip of 70,000 views, she shares some “red flags” she should have noticed a long time ago. According to her, her friend has also told the husband that he “looks so cute” in his outfits.
In another example, the friend would suggest that Smith “send your husband over with the kids” so she could feed them dinner. Smith thought this was an innocent and kind offer, but is now rethinking the motives. She says her friend is currently on a trip, but once she returns, Smith will take what viewers have given for advice and utilize it.
What Will She Do?
In part three of the story, Smith shares the “plan” she and her husband came up with. They plan to distance themselves for a few weeks first and once upon meeting again, if the friend gets touchy, Smith will “call her out.” She thinks that if she confronts her and tells her it is weird, then that will “shock” her. The creator goes on to share that after posting on TikTok for advice, she feels validated and can accept that it is, in fact, a strange thing for someone to do. She also says, “I don’t think my husband is interested at all, but it’s still just a hard situation.”
Under that clip, viewers seem to agree as one in declaring that Smith should not be the one to call her friend out. The top comment with over 2,500 likes states, “I feel it’s HIS place to say something to her and say it in front of you.”
Other viewers seem to focus on another aspect. “Wait. You ‘don’t think’ your husband is interested? Sis………” says one viewer.
@ashtynsmithrn OK, I feel so bad even posting this, but I literally need some advice because I feel like she just gets more and more comfortable with doing it. What do I do?! #needadvice #marriedcouple #help ♬ original sound – AshtynsmithRN
Viewers are Side-eyeing the Marriage
Many viewers are eager to jump to Smith concerning her marriage. One viewer, however, asks the important question of whether Smith has spoken to her husband about it. Her reply: “Yes and he doesn’t like it either.”
The rest of the comments are not that optimistic. “No just no. My best friend was always hugging and touchy to my husband. He didn’t respond and even looked uncomfortable. Couple years later started a seven year affair. I found out last year. Absolute devastation. He should have set boundaries from the very beginning,” shares one viewer.
Another viewer simply says, “She likes him.” A second shares, “She’s testing your (and his) boundaries. A ‘good friend’ doesn’t do that. Trust your intuition here.”
Lastly, one says, “They already have something going on.”
Of course, some do deliver advice. One viewer says, “Normalize letting people know when they make you feel uncomfortable.”
Another shares a dialogue for Smith to use: “Listen friend, I appreciate your friendship and hanging out with you and your husband, however the amount of attention being given to my husband is making me uncomfortable. I would appreciate you being mindful around us and keeping your hands to yourself. Thank you.”
The Mary Sue reached out to Smith via email.
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