Teenager Really, Really Needs To Get Online, Drugs Parents’ Milkshakes So They Pass Out

There are…no words…

I’m concerned about why they alerted the police. I’m not dismissing what the teenagers did but having them ARRESTED? Seems like an overly drastic step to take I feel.

What? That’s crazy!

…Yet ANOTHER mental health problem that is being treated as a crime.Oh America, how I love it when you put people in jail that should be seeing a therapist.

I’m actually glad they didn’t downplay it. This is something that’s seen as played for laughs on TV and in the movies, but it’s really a serious offense. It’s not just something you shouldn’t do, it’s really illegal and dangerous. What if the parents hadn’t stopped drinking the milkshake?

Sending them to prison isn’t going to help.

Unless their daughter ROUTINELY acts out in criminal ways, then ya know, police may become necessary.

Not sure what everyone else would do but I would certainly call the police. I’d fear for my life after a situation like this. Obviously therapy is also called for but I’d be scared to death of my children.

They were DRUGGED, not just lied to.

Um, no, it’s not overly drastic. They drugged their parents. A human being doing this to another human being is a crime, regardless of relationship.

It might seem that way but I guess the girls need to know that drugging someone – anyone – is completely unacceptable and that may be the only way to drive the point home.

I understand your comment because ultimately no harm was done and the reason for the girls’ actions were seemingly harmless but maybe the parents feel they could do this again to someone else. Or indeed just do it again to them. It might be one stupid action that they didn’t think through (the drugging I mean) – or it might be something more sinister. What if they’d got carried away and overdosed the girl’s parents with a dangerous level of the drugs?

I think calling the police is the only way these girls would know just how serious their actions were.

What mental health problem?

I think it’s a perfectly reasonable response to a potentially life-threatening action. I’m pretty sure they won’t do it again, either. I don’t know what kind of parents they are normally, but they did this right.

The kids surely also need therapy, but they both need to know that there are consequences for criminal actions.

Well neither is hugging them and telling them they shouldn’t feel bad for poisoning their parents.

A teenager who thinks it’s ok to drug their parents so they can get online? I would call that a mental health problem…

The kid might just simply be a selfish, unthinking jerk (hardly an uncommon affliction among teenagers).

All joking aside though, I agree with you that therapy is part of what this kid needs, as well as a real and lasting impression of the consequences of what it means to poison someone.

So, you are saying that there is no other possible explanation other than mental health problems? You should never become a lawyer.

If the child routinely does bad things like this, then mostly likely the parents are bad parents as well. If they are good parents then this is likely a one time thing and I would have talked to my child. My life is important but if I am a loving parent then the life of my child is even more so, and being a good loving parent I would assume I raised my kid where I could talk to them about it. If I was a bad parent and the child acted out a lot… well… if only there was a rehabilitation center for them both that would work.

Wouldn’t you worry about the outcome for your kid? Unless the child has the ability to make parents spontaneously combust, then maybe talking to them first would be a start.

Nobody just does something like this out of the blue. Obviously they were such bad parents that they SUSPECTED their daughter might DRUG THEM. C’mon, both testing themselves for drugs and the fact that they immediately called the police make me pretty certain there were plenty of warning signs here. I hardly think technology itself is the actual problem here.

Dude, they could’ve killed their parents. This sort of thing needs consequences that are harsher than just a talk.

Harsh punishment will just make a harsher child. Sometimes talking is enough. If you read my other comment, I talked about how it mostly has to do with how the kid was raised. Were the parents good to the kid? If so, then I think talking would be enough because the child would want to protect the parents interests (works both ways). If not, then I can’t provide an answer of what to do but I can say that harsh punishment has been shown to make harsher criminals.

Perhaps a rehabilitation center if the kid is obviously dysfunctional to where he or she may harm someone. Prison isn’t for rehabilitation, it is for punishment.

This child sounds like an irresponsible, selfish, ignorant girl. All of this over the drivel concocted online like Twitter, Tumbler, MMOs, god only knows the excuse. Even as a first time error, this is an incredibly serious action and absolutely required the police. It will hopefully aid the parents in teaching the child a lesson. With something like this, you CANNOT just have a talk, this is an action that crosses a severe line of parenting, and there is no grounding punishment that is enough. I’m sure these are good parents doing the best they can, setting time limits is fair. The problem is with their selfish daughter, who I hope will be tried as an adult. Disgusting.

I will guarantee that the visiting friend is the key here, both in the “need” to go online and the drugging. The restriction of internet access is assuredly something the 15yo daughter complained about but dealt with it fine…until her 16yo friend came around. I reiterate the ages because it’s a seemingly innocuous fact that’s probably more important than it would seem. If the age difference also equals them being in different grades, it gives context to the level of peer pressure and/or susceptibility at play. And I wouldn’t be surprised if the friend had done this before to her parents.

The kids probably won’t go to a detention center – my guess is mandatory counseling plus a ton of community service and probation.

As for suspecting being drugged, it seems like a fairly logical conclusion to me: weird tasting, grainy milkshake + unexplained sleepiness x mysterious hangover = someone drugged my effing milkshake.

Really? Look, it’s not always the parent’s fault if a kid is messed up. For all we know, the teen could have some legitimate mental issues.

Just sayin’- cast no stones.

Because kids are always the direct product of how they were raised! TOTALLY AND ALWAYS.

So face-palming this. You obviously have no experience with raising kids, or don’t pay attention to those around you. Because really.

Yeah it’s hard to know without background information.

I understand the parents involving the police if they needed to demonstrate to the girls just how serious their actions were but of course it all depends on a number of things. Was this out of character for their daughter? If so then talking to her first would definitely be the most logical option and exploring options for some sort of therapy to get to the root of why she’s done this. Has she been behaving badly and this is the worst thing she’s done so far despite lesser punishments? Well again, talking would be a first step but if they felt she needed to really be taught a lesson then maybe involving the police would work. However could the parents drop the charges and stop them being prosecuted if they wanted? If it’s about lesson teaching and showing the girls just how incredibly serious their behaviour was then they probably wouldn’t have to go so far as prosecution to make the point. A warning involving the police would probably be enough.

There’s little background information so it’s difficult to know if the girls – or one of them – perhaps have mental health issues or if they’re just hugely thoughtless and foolish. Or if they are just reckless, either due to bad parenting or just an unpleasant nature.

I’d like to know what made the parents suspect their daughter had drugged their drinks. Unless she’d done something like that before I can’t imagine that would be my first thought – or that I’d think to take a drugs test at the police then immediately report my daughter. It doesn’t say if they confronted their daughter before involving the police but that would definitely be the most obvious thing to me. If this wasn’t typical behaviour she’d probably crack and confess, maybe even blame her friend. Someone above mentioned the possibilty of peer pressure from the friend which seems very plausible too.

When there’s no real context, it’s difficult to know either way whether the parents did the right thing I suppose. As I said before I understand why they’d involve the police to demonstrate the seriousness of the situation – although I’m not saying that’s definitely what I would do – but we really don’t know what punishment fits the crime when we know so little about the girls, their definite motives and the parents.

It says on CBS 13 news that this girl had drugged her parents before,and the parents confronted her and she admitted to drugging them because they wouldn’t let her get on the internet past 10pm. Also, they recently adopted her. The video is on CBS 13

Are they SURE that going online is the reason she drugged them? Not that this is terribly relevant or anything.

Why is the adoption part relevant?

So they don’t allow her to get on the internet past 10pm, but they allow her to walk to fast food restaurants past 10pm? Not that I’m excusing the drugging at all, but am I the only one that thinks they have their priorities a little screwed up?

Well, it will prevent them from drugging anyone else…

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It’s entertaining to read comments that connect disturbing behavior with mental health, as if doing absurd, pointless, evil or callous actions automatically means the person has a identifiable mental illness. No,criminals don’t have to be CRAZY to do crazy things – they just have a different set of values, circumstances or genetic coding in their head. Read “Inside the Criminal Mind”.

Maybe she’s one of those mentally messed-up kids from the former Soviet Union. That could explain alot.

Send her back to the adoption agency.

The sheer fact that the parents’ first inclination was to drug test themselves shows there are habitual problems in that household. They already had trust issues. “Most” people would have suspected something like food poisoning or a food allergy or even the flu.

I don’t think it specifies they picked up the milkshakes after 10pm. I assume they did this earlier in the evening, knowing the drugs would knock the parents out for several hours – probably hoping for all night, in fact – so they could stay online past 10pm.

Indeed. I have mental health problems, but in my specific experience, they do not make me violent. Everyone is different, and so is mental health. To quote Melissa from Shakesville: “Now, this has the same problems I’ve previously delineated regarding flagging mental illness: That not all people with mental illness are violent; that not all violent people are mentally ill; that not all mental illness looks the same, especially when “mental illness” is used so broadly as to group all manner of psychological disabilities into one giant category that its evocateurs evidently use synonymously with ‘fucked in the head.’”

What you are stating, Ellie Davidson, is problematic. Check out the whole post, it’s a good read.
http://www.shakesville.com/2012/12/an-observation-about-mental-illness.html

#EmpathyFail.

I see what you’re saying. Sometimes this can be the product of another problem. When I was little, my brother and I made prank calls to 911. We would call, they’d answer, and we hung up. My parents had just recently taught us how to do this, since they thought we should know how to react in a dangerous situation. The police finally came over to ask our parents what was going on. I don’t remember what actions they took towards us (think we got a stern talking to?), but our calls were legit…my father was an abusive man. We were calling them because we DID feel in danger, of him. All in all though, agree with Carrie; we don’t know enough details. But yes, this is a good point.

I just saw this story on another website, which gave more details (http://sourcefednews.com/daughter-drugs-parents-for-internet-access/)
The parents went to the police because THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME SHE DRUGGED THEM.
And she’s not actually their biological daughter, but a foster child that they adopted.
So that explains both the “bad parent” thing (because it’s possible they’re not the bad parents, but it was someone else in the system or her biological parents that screwed her up), and why they would go to the police (because obviously if she’s a repeat offender, just talking to her is not going to help).

So, yeah, definitely think the parents made the right call.

Do you have any evidence to offer to the contrary beyond bashing the caps lock key? Obviously, mental issues can arise to bring about unpredictability. However, I would say that the vast majority of children are products of their parents. I have some numbers for my argument.

“Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy.”
“14% of all men in prison in the USA were abused as children.”
“Children who experience child abuse & neglect are 59% more likely to be arrested as a juvenile, 28% more likely to be arrested as an adult, and 30% more likely to commit violent crime.”
Source: http://www.childhelp.org/pages/statistics

You sound very defensive. I suspect this is because you are a parent yourself, it is the reason I am not a parent. I am afraid that I am not yet prepared to offer my child what he or she would need. I wander if perhaps you are lashing out at me because if what I say is true, then the weight of being a parent is all that much more harder, but all the more important.

I wasn’t trying to insult anyone and I haven’t. I am trying to have an intelligent conversation so that children will be treated as people with full human rights like any other adult. This means no hitting them and stopping all of the unnecessary lying or talking down to, things that I am sure many of us have witnessed ourselves at least one time or another.

They’re not being locked up forever, and the best place to learn how to be a criminal is in a prison, surrounded by other criminals. Locking up petty criminals turns them into hardened criminals more often than you’d like.