Woman helps her husband move to the US, then claims he’s abandoning her to join the army while she’s pregnant: ‘He ruined this pregnancy for me’
She says her husband is rushing to enlist days after first hearing about the Army, and she calls him a “gas lighter.”
A pregnant woman says she is weighing a divorce lawyer after her husband, whom she helped relocate to the US, set his sights on joining the Army. According to Daily Dot, she laid out her frustration in a long Reddit post on r/GirlDinnerDiaries at 17 weeks of pregnancy.
The idea came up only about seven days earlier, she claims. By her account, he has already taken the entrance exam and is waiting on a medical review. She believes a contract could follow soon. He is 42, and she says the age limit she has heard is 43, which she reads as the reason he is moving so fast.
This would be another long stretch apart. She says their first child was born while he was abroad and he could not join them until the girl turned four. She filed the paperwork that brought him to the US, she adds. Now, with a second baby on the way, she says he wants to leave again.
She says training could clash with her due date
According to her, the recruiter told her basic training could begin sometime from January to March. Her baby shower is set for January. She is due in April. When she asked what would happen if the baby arrived while he was away, she says the recruiter told her he would get 30 days at home.
Her husband points to benefits for their children. She calls herself “very well off” and does not see why he needs them. She would back him if the Army had been a long-held goal, she writes, not an idea he picked up days earlier. She says leaving during her pregnancy is what hurts most. In her words, “He’s ruined this pregnancy for me.”
She also calls him a “gas lighter.” In her telling, he argues that he cannot support the family without enlisting and that he would resent her if she asked him not to go. She claims he floated hiring a nanny who would live with them, an idea she rejects because it would mean spending the pregnancy around a stranger. She closes by pointing out that a prenup is in place and says a call to an attorney could come before the week is out. All details are based on her Reddit post.
Army Times states that the Army raised its maximum enlistment age to 42 from 35, which differs from the 43 cutoff she cites. It adds that waivers were sometimes granted for older applicants before the change. Army leaders describe the move as an effort to reach a wider range of potential recruits.
On how long training lasts, Military OneSource states that “Army basic combat training lasts 10 weeks.” Its page tells families to expect limited contact during basic training. “There’s no texting from foxholes,” it states.
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