Queer Oklahoma bride hired a videographer for her two-bride wedding. He sent a contract, then cancelled on her: ‘You are sick, and you are disgusting’

Jordan Boughner (@jdawgg13_), a bride from Oklahoma, hired a videographer while planning her gay wedding. She thought he was ready to offer his services but alleged that he abruptly pulled out, citing moral reasons.

“If you don’t support all types of love, you should not be in the wedding industry,” Boughner told TikTok. The videographer she reached out to was new and up-and-coming. Boughner alleged that she confirmed with him multiple times, asking him if he would be okay with covering a two-bride wedding. She said they had been in communication for a couple of days, and then he sent her a contract on the evening of October 3rd.

Later that morning, Boughner said she received an email from the videographer saying he had to cancel their contract. It wasn’t because he was double-booking an event, unlike this mobile bartender in Ohio who dipped on the bride on her wedding day. Boughner alleged that the videographer canceled because their wedding “doesn’t align with his morals.”

Nevertheless, Boughner shared a screenshot of her asking whether the videographer could cover a two-bride wedding. A comment from the videographer’s alleged girlfriend said, “Yes.” She also posted a photo of her email inquiry to the videographer. Boughner wrote, “I would also like to preface that this is a two bride wedding, so please let me know if that is something you would be okay with!”

The alleged videographer’s reply email reads, “… I would be absolutely honored to film your wedding day.” Boughner said the videographer sent her a contract afterward, but the videographer rescinded it. She commented, “You are sick, and you are disgusting. If this is how you treat your clients, I can’t imagine anyone working with you ever again.”

Why did he bail on the two-bride wedding?

Boughner thought about her sentiments and felt as though she was overreacting. She worried she was blowing the issue out of proportion but later realized she wasn’t when she received an explanatory email from the videographer.

The alleged videographer’s email reads, “I understand why my message this morning felt confusing and concerning, especially after I had sent the contract last night, I’m sorry for the mixed signals and the stress this has caused. After sending the contract I took some time to pray and talk it over with my family. Sitting with it, I realized I don’t feel able to move forward in good conscience.” The reply also clarified that the issue wasn’t the logistics, the date, or the scope of work. He confirmed it was his “relationship with God” and what he feels are events he can or can’t participate in.

Boughner called the decision “selfish.” She also said that if she signed the contract the videographer sent, she would have invited a man who didn’t share her beliefs either, which she is also uncomfortable with. Regardless, Boughner clarified in an update video that she will not be suing the videographer.

She added, “I am fully aware that people have the right to deny business to anyone they want. I’ve been through it many, many times with wedding vendors. What I took issue with in this situation is that I gave him an out from the very beginning.” Boughner isn’t the only unhappy customer around. A patient from Georgia had her physical exam done by a clinic, only to walk out after the doctor allegedly discriminated against her.

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