Minnesota Woman Visits a Bar on Memorial Day and Faces Condescending Men, but Her Action Makes Them Retreat: ‘All Men Suck Now’
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As a woman, through my experiences, I have realized that when men interact with you for the first time, whether they are strangers or acquaintances through mutual friends, they often assume you are docile and speak in a condescending manner, as if you are less than them. Other women may have different or similar experiences, but this is what I have encountered in most of my interactions with men and have also observed in those of other women.
Just two days ago, TikTok user @hopeyoufindyourdad posted a video about meeting men at a bar she visited with her friend on Memorial Day. She explained that the men tried to impress them by speaking to them in a patronizing manner, only to realize that they were smarter than they thought. This realization made the men self-aware, and they backed off from the situation, but not before embarrassing themselves.
TikTok user @hopeyoufindyourdad is appalled by men’s audacity
As mentioned earlier, TikTok user @hopeyoufindyourdad went to a bar on Memorial Day with a friend. Discussing the crowd at the bar, Andra said that most of them were men, and based on their appearances, they were “average” at best.
Then Andra pointed out that two men approached them and started talking to them as if they were children, calling them “sweetheart” and “honey.” These men also spoke with Andra and her friend in a very egotistical manner, and during the conversation, she said that she and her friend were starting to lose their brain cells.
Now, to the fun part that made Andra believe men lack social skills. She and her friend, during their interactions with these two men, kept lying, but they couldn’t tell. Then, at one point, two other men came over to talk to them, replacing the previous ones, and Andra and her friend fed them a bunch of lies too, but none of them caught on, which made Andra think they weren’t really listening and were very bad at communicating.
To top it all off, at one point, while talking about Memorial Day, these men started discussing guns. Andra and her friend said they owned one. When the men asked what kind, Andra and her friend named ones that were “extremely illegal” and not possible for a woman from Minnesota to own. In the video, Andra also mentions that she changed her name multiple times during the conversation, but they didn’t notice.
Eventually, tired of these men’s antics, Andra’s friend pulled up some of Andra’s profiles, and Andra showed an article she had been featured in. When the men learned about her field of work, as she mentions in her video, they stepped back. One of them then said he was “too stupid” to be there, that he wasn’t smart enough, and then he left. She ended her video by saying, “Men need to live under this weird delusion that they’re smarter and cooler than the women they’re speaking to when that’s almost never the case. But also, don’t lead that way. Speaking to you is like messing with a hamster. It just feels unfair.”
People have a lot to say about @hopeyoufindyourdad’s video
@hopeyoufindyourdad’s video has gained significant momentum on TikTok, and in the comments section, people have shared their feelings about the incident. Many mentioned their own experiences, emphasizing how their partners and husbands prefer women to be much smarter than they are. User @coffeemom666 said, “My husband knows I’m smarter then him and loves it. He tells me all the time that my brains turn him on. God I love him! All men suck now.” User @garfmall wrote, “i’m so glad that my boyfriend understands and acknowledges that i am the smarter one.”
Many of the discussions in the comments section focused on social skills. For example, user @phangphucker wrote, “I’m not the best at social skills but I still understand that I shoot my shot and then walk off; harassing just ain’t it.” User @chunkylover5390 said, “Must be the social worker side of me, but in a conversation I prefer to listen, I like learning about others.”
Men turn to support networks less often than women during vulnerable times
A new Pew Research Center survey shows that men do not report feeling lonely more often or having fewer close friends compared to women. However, men appear less likely to seek social connection and emotional support through their networks.
The research also finds that about 16% of Americans say they feel lonely or isolated most or all of the time, with roughly the same proportion of men and women. Around 38% say they sometimes feel lonely, while 47% rarely or never do.
Adults under 50 are much more likely than those 50 and older to report often feeling lonely (22% vs. 9%). Among all age groups, those 65 and older are the most likely to rarely or never feel lonely (66%).
(featured image: TikTok/@hopeyoufindyourdad)
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