Kentucky woman allows daughter to wear new black Balances to school, then smacks her after she swings at her: ‘Gentle parenting does not work’
Many people have a list of do’s and don’ts when it comes to parenting, but for TikTok user @__itsautumn__, from Kentucky, none of that seems to matter. Just a day ago, Autumn uploaded a video to her account that has sparked a lot of debate about parenting, especially around the idea of adopting a gentle parenting style versus not adopting one.
While many in the comments section of @__itsautumn__’s post believe that gentle parenting isn’t practical, others have taken a strong stance in favor of it, arguing that it’s the only way to raise a child. So, what really started all this debate? Well, Autumn shared a video in which she said she had to spank her kid because she refused to wear a pair of shoes she very persistently wanted to put on, and then swung at her mother. Some say the kid deserved the whoop, others say she didn’t, so which side are you on? Don’t worry, I won’t judge.
TikTok user @__itsautumn__ is telling the tale of whooping her daughter’s tail
TikTok user @__itsautumn__ supports spanking children when necessary, and she has a story to back up her view. As mentioned earlier, just a day ago, she uploaded a video on her TikTok account. In it, she talks about how she spanked her daughter after she acted unruly.
In her video, @__itsautumn__ mentions that recently, while she was about to drive her daughter to school, she insisted on wearing her new black Balances. Autumn told her kid to get in the car wearing her Crocs, and before entering the school, she could wear the shoes she wanted. Autumn explains that during this incident, she had a broken foot and wasn’t wearing her special boots that day to drive her daughter because she thought she wouldn’t have to get out of the car and would just drop her off and go back home. However, things didn’t go as planned. When Autumn reached the school, she got out of the car and went to the passenger side to put on her daughter’s shoes. But she was no longer as eager to put them on as before. In fact, it was quite the opposite. Autumn mentions that her daughter found the shoes uncomfortable and refused to wear them, which made her very upset. With few options left, she ordered her daughter to wear the shoes and go to school, promising she would get her a new pair from Walmart or another store within 30 minutes. However, as Autumn says in the video, her six-year-old daughter was unhappy with that idea and started screaming and jumping around like “she’s having a seizure” before finally swinging at her. Very angry, Autumn went after her daughter and “whooped her tail,” then told her, “Get in that damn school, stop acting like a fool, and have a good day. I love you.” Her daughter responded by shoving her mother, which made Autumn hesitate to get her new shoes, but she eventually did. Then, later, when she brought the shoes to the school, people who saw Autumn spank her kid, including the principal, asked her about what happened. In the last few moments of her video, Autum mentions that she believes in disciplining children when necessary and would punish her daughter for her behavior, which includes her doing chores around the house and caring for her while she recovers from her broken foot.
@__itsautumn__’s comment section is abuzz with differing opinions about parenting
No two parents have the exact same opinions about parenting, and TikTok user @__itsautumn__’s recent video, where she strongly opposes the idea of gentle parenting, proves this point. Many comments support Autumn’s view that spanking children when necessary for discipline is acceptable. User @mrs.young1991 wrote, “Automatically following!!! Gentle parenting does not work.” User @sthrnchrm3 stated, “I flat out don’t believe it! A YOUNG parent who doesn’t believe in “gentle parenting”??? There is hope for this world yet! Way to go, MOM!”
A significant number of people in the comments section of @__itsautumn__’s post also disagreed with how she handled the situation with her daughter. User @celtickiwi111 wrote, “spanking doesn’t work and it definitely shouldn’t be done in public. Fear and humiliation are no ways to raise healthy children.” User @whimsyrosette simply wrote, “weird.”
How do gentle parents describe gentle parenting?
- Regulating one’s own emotions
- Helping children regulate their emotions
- Expressing emotional and physical affection to children
59.2% of the 49 parents identifying as gentle parents believed that parent’s emotion regulation is a key aspect of gentle parenting. This theme highlighted parents’ efforts to remain calm and avoid physical punishment or punitive measures with their children. The second most common theme (40.8%) involved parents helping their children manage emotions by validating and listening to their emotional experiences or scaffolding emotions, using these moments as opportunities for growth and self-understanding. The third most common theme (26.5%) was parents expressing physical and/or emotional affection towards their children.
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