Woman goes through her boyfriend’s YouTube history. What she sees is ‘worse than cheating’
Some girlfriends go through their boyfriend’s phones looking for flirty DMs. This one found a full-blown villain origin story. After casually scrolling through her boyfriend’s YouTube history, she didn’t find signs of another woman; she accidentally uncovered tutorials on how to manipulate one.
As she laughs about it on TikTok, viewers are not that amused. Rather than focusing on the male-manipulator-in-making, they call her out for her giggles instead.
What Did She Find on His YouTube History?
Shaely (@slimshaely) may be laughing about it now, but the story gets worse the deeper it goes. Her original clip acquired 3.6 million views, and her follow-up videos have accumulated 165,000 views.
Overall, there are over 7,000 comments on the subject. The clip that started it all begins with Shaely looking at the camera with her hand over her mouth. She’s laughing and asking, “What is this?”
She pans the camera over to the TV screen that shows a YouTube search history pulled up. One of the videos she shows is called “Put her to work: Women want to care for you.” Shaely laughs and says, “I gotta get outta here, guys. I’m in danger.” Her text overlay reads: “When I went through my BFs youtube history and he was watching videos on how to manipulate and control women 24/7.”
Did She Break Up with Him?
Amidst all the chaos in her comments, one demand rings the loudest: leave him. Shaely’s viewers either beg her to leave her boyfriend or criticize her for posting and choosing to stay.
Even though in the original clip, the caption says, “I am actually praying for his next gf lmao,” she makes another clip providing more context. She begins by saying she had to make another video because she was getting “slimed the [expletive] out” in the first clip.
Shaely explains that she is no longer with the man, they don’t live together, and yes, she confronted him. Next, she addresses all the comments that were “mad” at her for laughing.
“God forbid a girl is a [expletive] nervous giggler,” she says, citing that she was genuinely shocked. She also adds that for more context, she’ll pull the “dead mom card,” saying she stayed with the boyfriend a bit longer after finding out because her mother had just died.
As for the confrontation, she says he just acted “nonchalant” and said he was just watching the videos, not doing anything it said. She asked him to stop and he said he would–except he didn’t. Shaely says the “final straw” was his uninviting her to a trip to Bali and then taking his friend, who “loves strip clubs and brothels and cheating on his partners” instead. She said that, coupled with more videos she found, was when she finally called it quits.
It Gets Worse
Believe it or not, the misogyny runs a little deeper. While she only showed one video from his history, Shaely reveals that he was watching way more than just manipulation tactics. Apparently, he was also viewing tips on how to flirt with women, how to get women who are out of your league, how to be a player, how to stay detached, how to get her to do what you want and many more.
Another big question was: did he use the tactics on her? Shaely says no. She believes he was watching them all “in preparation” to use on other girls. She says he is pursuing younger girls in their 20s now. “I think he was trying to gear up to manipulate younger girls, his [expletive] was not manipulating me.”
Why Did She Finally Reveal the Truth?
Many viewers ask Shaely why she hadn’t noticed her boyfriend watching these videos before she stumbled upon his YouTube watch history. Her answer? No one would be able to tell he would be someone who watched those types of videos since he is “so nice.”
She recounts that recently, his co-workers came up to her at a bar and asked what happened because he is “so nice and charming.” Shaely says she has been “saving face” for him for so long and just saying that was “too nonchalant” instead. However, she got the Snapchat memory and thought she had already kept it quiet for “far too long.”
@slimshaely i am actually praying for his next gf lmao
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What Does Red-Pilled Mean?
While its previous connotation was due to its origin in The Matrix, the term “red pill” has changed drastically in the past couple of years. Merriam-Webster credits it to when “the main character is given the choice between taking a (literal) blue pill that would return him to a state of ignorance and a red pill that would show him the truth that humans are enslaved in a simulated reality.” Gen Z, however, has transformed it into a term synonymous with right-wing conservatism and misogyny.
New America reported that men took the term to “describe their ‘realization’ that [they] do not hold systemic power or privilege. Instead, they awaken to the ‘truth’ that socially, economically, and sexually men are at the whims of women’s (and feminists’) power and desires.” This in turn, is now central to the many male supremacist movements, citing that women should submit to men. Therefore, this is what the viewer meant when they said Shaely’s ex-boyfriend had “taken the red pill.”
Viewers are Appalled, Outraged, and More
Aside from all the advice to run or break up, some viewers simply can’t help sharing their bafflement and distress. One viewer says, “This is worse than cheating.”
“What possible explanation could he have given for this,” asks one viewer. Shaely replies, “HE SAID IT WAS JUST INTERESTING.”
Another viewer shares, “This is why i am pro women snooping bc hell nah.” Shaely responds, “EXACTLY!!!! Can’t even trust them on YOUTUBE?!”
One even turns the tables and says, “I’m so toxic cause I would pretend it was working while secretly manipulating him back.”
One viewer shares a similar experience, “Same. instead of ‘how to be a better partner’ or ‘how to be a better father’ it was advice on how to pick up women, and stay detached in a relationship… we were together 12.5 years.”
Lastly, one viewer says, “Red pill is literally abusers teaching abuse and manipulation tactics to other men.”
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