Oklahoma barista overhears man talking to a woman about his fiancée. She’s got a message for her: ‘RUN’
Nothing perks a barista up like overhearing relationship drama served hot with a side of audacity. An Oklahoma coffee shop employee is going viral after eavesdropping on a man who spent an entire hour venting to a random woman about his “nightmare fiancée.”
You read it right, fiancée. As in, he’s still engaged. Praise the universe for good Samaritans. The barista ran straight to TikTok mid-shift with a public service announcement aimed straight at the mystery fiancée. Maybe the man had every right to complain…but why do it to a woman you just met at a coffee shop?
The Drama Overheard
There are currently 135,000 views on the clip, with many invested in the gossip. TikToker Madi @mysupertopsecretspamacc posted a 15-second clip from what looks like the backroom of the place she works at.
The clip is short with no verbal audio. The creator stares at the camera while showing only half of her face. She’s also covering her mouth with her hand, as if still shocked and unable to say anything verbally. The text overlay reads: “Hey so usually i mind my business as a barista but if you’re currently engaged to a man named mike in the choctaw-midwest city area with three cats, TAKE YOUR CATS AND RUN.”
Not wanting to jump to blame the man fully, she says in the caption, “This mans been here talking to this woman for about an hour now about his ‘nightmare fiance situation’ … who knows maybe she might be but TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMAN ABOUT IT YOU JUST MET ??” Part of the issue is not the engaged aspect, but the free trauma dumping session.
Men Griping About Women Behind Their Backs
Unfortunately, this is not a new phenomenon. The Mary Sue has covered various stories where men would complain or degrade a woman behind their backs. There was an incident with an Uber driver where he drove a couple home after their date. He dropped the girl off first, and as soon as she was gone, the man started sharing crass and xenophobic beliefs about the woman.
In a different story posted a few weeks ago, a woman overheard a man laughing about his girlfriend, Amanda, to another female companion. According to the boasting man, Amanda thought he was at a casino with friends. Lo and behold, he’s on a flight to Orlando with a blonde woman. The internet comes together for support.
@mysupertopsecretspamacc this mans been here talking to this woman for about an hour now about his “nightmare fiance situation” … who knows maybe she might be but TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMAN ABOUT IT YOU JUST MET ?? #oklahoma #engaged #messy #share ♬ original sound – ToxicSLUDGE1HUNNA
The Viewers Want All the Tea?
With almost 800 comments, the viewers’ opinions venture between sharing locations and sincere hope that the fiancée finds the clip. If they share where it got to, there’s more hope it gets to the intended person.
One viewer says, “I’m in oklahoma. I hope it gets to the lady in choctaw-midwest city.”
A second viewer shares, “I’m in mwc so you’ve made it to the correct fyp just incorrect girl. hope she finds this.” This trend continues for most of the comments.
Interestingly enough, people also join in on trying to spread awareness. One viewer says, “This video is now posted in the town fb group.”
Another gives more ideas: “Girl post this in ‘are we dating the same man’ there should be one local on fb.”
A third viewer says, “Girl i’m finna post this on talk around mwc im messy.”
So far, there has been no update on finding the people mentioned in the video. The Mary Sue reached out to Madi via Instagram direct message.
Update Dec. 21, 2025:
In a direc message to the Mary Sue, Madi says this was the first time something like this had happened to her. She says she usually tries to mind her own business, but the man was “there for over an hour and very openly saying things that would turn your head.”
She continues that the man started speaking “really grossly on his so called ‘fiancée.'”
“It just really disturbed me knowing she may have no clue he even feels this way, let alone talking to other women about it,” she shares. “I didn’t expect the blow up it got, but I still wanted to try and just spread a little word out in hopes lol.”
Madi reveals that she posted the video because she thought the fiancée deserved to know.
“I’d hate to be living one with a man who secretly hates me, and I have no clue,” she says. “I’d personally hope someone would try to find me.”
Madi says she still hasn’t found the woman. As for the attention the man received, Madi thinks it went too far when a screenshot of the security footage got posted in the comments.
“Then I would say that is an invasion of privacy, but I immediately took down the photo,” she adds. “I understand a lot of people had mixed feelings about this, wondering why I wouldn’t help expose him, but that’s where my moral line is drawn if anyone wants info on him, I will say it, but I’m not going to blast his face. I think any other content creators out here who expose men are honestly doing the Lord’s work, but there is definitely a correct and wrong way to go about it.”
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