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No, Women Don’t Have to Have Kids to Be Happy, Stefan Molyneux

Marisa Tomei famously doesn't want kids, it's fine

The idea that a woman has to have a child to be fulfilled is ancient and outdated—just like those still stating it as if it were a fact. Still, with each new passing day, there is another man out there in the world who feels the need to share his opinion on women and their bodies, and the cycle continues.

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There’s nothing wrong with wanting kids or not wanting kids. Either way, a woman is a fully formed person with her own thoughts and desires, and a child isn’t going to change that fact. So when a man (because let’s be honest here, it’s always a man) logs on to to make grand statements about what women need in their lives, I have to laugh—especially when it’s “scientific racism” believer and alt-right personality Stefan Molyneux.

My favorite argument for things like this is to point out how Marisa Tomei views marriage and children. The Only You actress has often spoken about her feelings about both subjects and has still remained happy and successful without a ring on her finger or a child at home.

“I’m not that big a fan of marriage as an institution. And I don’t know why women need to have children to be seen as complete human beings.”

Tomei is right; you don’t have to have kids to be a complete person. I say this as someone who loves kids and wants kids, but also has a mother who never let having kids change who she was—who was fine by herself, in addition to being a mother. She still became the best at her job, did what she wanted to do, and thrived. She just did it with kids and now that we’re all grown, she’s doing her own thing and that’s fine.

Not only that, but this tweet, while extremely misguided, is also just not factual. Menopause, for most women, begins between the ages of 45 and 55, so the “mostly infertile” claim is already wrong. Anyway, here’s the ridiculous tweet:

From there, women began to drag him, as we do best, but the best part of this entire thing is that men were responding to the tweet claiming that kids changed their lives, and I had to stop and just shut my computer for a moment because … what does that have to do with absolutely anything?

Anyway, there are so many things wrong with so many of Molyneux’s opinions, including taking the Michael Douglas route and saying that pleasuring a woman orally leads to cancer, so maybe we shouldn’t pay him too much attention.

Do what you want. Have kids, don’t have kids, but also live your life to the fullest and make him completely and utterly confused by women being happy doing whatever they want.

(image: Marvel Entertainment/Photoshop)

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Rachel Leishman
Rachel Leishman (She/Her) is an Assistant Editor at the Mary Sue. She's been a writer professionally since 2016 but was always obsessed with movies and television and writing about them growing up. A lover of Spider-Man and Wanda Maximoff's biggest defender, she has interests in all things nerdy and a cat named Benjamin Wyatt the cat. If you want to talk classic rock music or all things Harrison Ford, she's your girl but her interests span far and wide. Yes, she knows she looks like Florence Pugh.

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