Woman says her partner kept turning off his location after his late-night DoorDash shifts. Then he hands her his phone, and she finds 2 dating apps

A woman named Ashley says she found two dating apps on her partner’s phone, and that her attempt to end the relationship led to threatening behavior and police involvement. Her account was shared in a TikTok video, according to The Daily Dot. Ashley says the pair had been planning to get married.

Ashley says her partner had started working DoorDash shifts to help with the family’s finances. He allegedly began staying out all night, blaming deals on the app and later claiming he needed hospital visits. After he frequently switched off his location sharing and his excuses stopped adding up, she asked to look through his phone, where she says she found the apps.

Things did not go well when she tried to break up with him, as he allegedly started punching and slamming items in the house. Ashley claims he also said he would harm himself if she went through with the split, and that police took him to a hospital after she called them. Her account has not been independently verified.

Ashley says his excuses got more elaborate the longer the late nights went on

Ashley says she did not think much of the late shifts at first, as her partner was trying to bring in extra money for the family. He would allegedly say DoorDash was running a deal or promise to be home within an hour, then fail to show up. These excuses grew more elaborate over time.

The excuses later shifted to his mental health, as he allegedly told Ashley he needed to go to the hospital. When she tried to support him, she claims he was not at the hospital and instead said he had to eat first or had a different appointment time. However, he allegedly did go once before checking himself out.

Advocates say there’s a right way to respond when a partner threatens self-harm

Psychology Today advises anyone whose partner has a clear plan for suicide or easy access to the means to seek immediate help from emergency services. However, the publication classifies repeated suicide threats used during arguments, or to stop someone from leaving, as emotional abuse. It warns that giving in to such threats often leads to them being used again.

The publication recommends that anyone facing repeated threats seek help from a qualified professional, as that support can help them cope and plan a possible exit if the threats continue. It adds that people are not responsible for what their partner chooses to do, and that manipulative threats should not be mistaken for love.

The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 in the U.S., and Psychology Today keeps a directory of suicide hotlines for people in other countries.

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