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Just Like Her Husband, Melania Trump Doesn’t Care About Anything but Herself

WASHINGTON, DC - JULY 04: First Lady Melania Trump attends an event on the South Lawn of the White House on July 04, 2020 in Washington, DC. President Trump is hosting a "Salute to America" celebration that includes flyovers by military aircraft and a large fireworks display. (Photo by Tasos Katopodis/Getty Images)

In what would almost definitely be the biggest news story of the weekend on a day when the president didn’t test positive for a potentially deadly virus after hosting a number of massive super-spreader events, audio has been released of Melania Trump, in which she sounds just as angry, uncaring, and anti-liberal as her husband.

The audio comes from Melania Trump’s former senior advisor and close friend, Stephanie Winston Wolkoff, who recently released a book about their relationship called Melania and Me. Wolkoff recorded a number of phone calls between herself and Trump in the lead-up to her firing and accusations that she’d engaged in criminal activity in relation to Donald Trump’s inauguration.

In this call, which Wolkoff released to CNN, Trump expresses anger at the “liberal media” for criticizing her complacency regarding her husband’s family separation policy, and frustration over having to do traditional First Lady duties like overseeing the White House Christmas decorations.

Melania Trump sounds to be at her wits’ end talking to Wolkoff about the way the “liberal media” portrays her.

“They say I’m complicit. I’m the same like him, I support him. I don’t say enough I don’t do enough where I am,” she says in the recording. “I’m working … my a** off on the Christmas stuff, that you know, who gives a f*** about the Christmas stuff and decorations? But I need to do it, right?”

“OK, and then I do it and I say that I’m working on Christmas and planning for the Christmas and they said, ‘Oh, what about the children that they were separated?’ Give me a f****** break. Where they were saying anything when Obama did that? I can not go, I was trying to get the kid reunited with the mom. I didn’t have a chance–needs to go through the process and through the law.”

There’s a lot going on here. First, I actually sympathize with Melania over her frustration at having to do things like holiday decorations, which might seem frivolous to her but are part of the traditional role of First Lady–a position that has pretty much always been rooted in sexist expectations and double standards. It is, however, still pretty funny since, as Anderson Cooper notes in the clip above, Donald Trump has made such a huge deal out of the mythic “war on Christmas,” and now we get to hear his wife essentially admit that they don’t actually care about Christmas in the slightest.

More important, though, is her callousness in response to being criticized for not doing or caring enough about immigrant and refugee children being separated from their families at the southern border. There is one possible reading of her conversation with Wolkoff where she can be seen as really wanting to reunite families and being genuinely frustrated by the slowness of the legal process.

That generous interpretation has to ignore a lot, like the mocking tone she uses in imitating the criticism of her inaction, the flippancy of her “Give me a f****** break” comment, and the infamous “I Really Don’t Care, Do U?” jacket she wore to the border, which Wolkoff claims was the publicity stunt it always appeared to be.

In another recording, Wolkoff asks Trump why she wore the jacket. “I’m driving liberals crazy, that’s for sure … and they deserve it,” Trump replied.

That kind of comment, like her pivoting to the Obamas, sounds like it could have come out of her husband’s mouth just as easily as hers. Here’s how that clip above continues, as she complains to her friend that the “liberal media” wouldn’t give her the kind of favorable coverage she thought she deserved:

“They will not do the story. We put it out, they would not do the story,” she whined. “You would not believe it, they would not do the story because they are not–they would not do the story because they are against us because they’re liberal media.”

“Yeah, if I go to Fox, they will do the story,” she continued. “I don’t want to go to Fox.”

So she’s mad that only Fox News will regurgitate her office’s positive slant and she blames media bias for that rather than herself and her husband’s actions. Yup, sounds like a Trump.

(via CNN, image: Tasos Katopodis/Getty Images)

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Vivian Kane (she/her) is the Senior News Editor at The Mary Sue, where she's been writing about politics and entertainment (and all the ways in which the two overlap) since the dark days of late 2016. Born in San Francisco and radicalized in Los Angeles, she now lives in Kansas City, Missouri, where she gets to put her MFA to use covering the local theatre scene. She is the co-owner of The Pitch, Kansas City’s alt news and culture magazine, alongside her husband, Brock Wilbur, with whom she also shares many cats.