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Yet Another Media Outlet Is Shocked—SHOCKED—to Learn Bisexuality Exists

Back when Kristen Stewart started publicly dating Alicia Cargile, the gossip and tabloid media had a hard time knowing exactly how to report on the news. Either out of respect for the fact that Stewart herself hadn’t commented on the relationship (lol no, tabloids don’t do that), or because they were VERY CONFUSED AND FRIGHTENED, most consistently referred to the two with the oddest of euphemisms: “gal pals.” As Stewart began dating other women, these outlets finally started to come out of their heteronormative shells and realize those gals were more than pals.

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Only now, Stewart has said in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar that she’s not opposed to dating men. Which is apparently both confusing and scandalous. At least, it is if you don’t understand that bisexuality is a thing.

Sigh. Do we really have to have this conversation? Again?

A lot of people apparently do think that. In the interview itself, she seems incredulous that this would be asked. The question itself is cut out of the online excerpts, but it sounds like she was probably asked what her sexual preference “really” is or some such nonsense.

“I’ve been deeply in love with everyone I’ve dated. Did you think I was faking it? I’ve always really embraced a duality. And really, truly, believed in it and never felt confused or struggling. I just didn’t like getting made fun of.”

Interviewer, presumably: “I still don’t get it. Explain sexuality to me as if I’m a child. You like boys … and girls?”

KStew: “Yeah, totally. Definitely… Some people aren’t like that. Some people know that they like grilled cheese and they’ll eat it every day for the rest of their lives. I want to try everything. If I have grilled cheese once I’m like, ‘That was cool, what’s next?'”

Yup, breaking news: bisexuality exists, and it’s not the same as flipping your gay/straight switch back and forth. It has nothing to do with hypersexuality, or confusion, or “wanting attention.” These ideas are all garbage, as is the “newsworthy” declaration that a bisexual person is “open to dating men again,” and are all based a fundamental lack of understanding of a very simple concept.

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Vivian Kane
Vivian Kane (she/her) is the Senior News Editor at The Mary Sue, where she's been writing about politics and entertainment (and all the ways in which the two overlap) since the dark days of late 2016. Born in San Francisco and radicalized in Los Angeles, she now lives in Kansas City, Missouri, where she gets to put her MFA to use covering the local theatre scene. She is the co-owner of The Pitch, Kansas City’s alt news and culture magazine, alongside her husband, Brock Wilbur, with whom she also shares many cats.

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