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Hater Dating App Helps You Find Common Ground in the Things You Really Hate

A dating app for the rest of us.



Sometimes Tinder, OkCupid, or even eHarmony don’t work for folks. That’s fine. (She said bitterly, spoonful of ice cream stuffed in her face.) Sometimes you really just can’t find common ground in the things you might like. (You know who you are.) That’s okay. (I swear.) This is why we now have Hater, a dating app that matches people based on the things they (you guessed it) hate. (My aesthetic.)

When you log in to the app, you’re presented with a series of topics or subjects. You can either “love,” “like,” “dislike,” or “hate” things as they show up. For example, when I first logged in, I got things like “Socializing with coworkers,” “Butt selfies,” “Fashion week,” “Playing music during sex,” and “Tom Brady.” (No, I’m not going to tell you what I answered to each of these. That’s left as an exercise for the reader.)

According to The Verge, Hater started as a comedy sketch (like most apps, I guess). And anecdotally speaking, it’s also a very real thing for folks to bond over the things that they might hate. After all, part of dating is finding out where you and your partner might be incompatible; what you like or dislike is a major part of that, right? It’s just interesting that this app seems to totally take that thought and run with it.

Once you’ve answered a few things and you have some judgements tucked into your back pocket, the app then basically becomes Tinder. You visit another section of the app and you can swipe left or right on folks with compatible hates. Replying or judging more topics basically hones down the people you get matched with.

Boiled down, this essentially does away with those long OkCupid surveys that you answer to help build a profile on that site. Here, you get to just sit wherever you are, hate on things, and move on.

So, go ahead. Grab some nice wine, some bargain drug store Valentine’s Day candy, some takeout, and swipe furiously away on some things you hate. I don’t know about you, but if I’m going to be bitter, I may as well channel that energy into something… well, productive, I guess.

Happy whatever day, lovebirds.

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Jessica Lachenal is a writer who doesn’t talk about herself a lot, so she isn’t quite sure how biographical info panels should work. But here we go anyway. She's the Weekend Editor for The Mary Sue, a Contributing Writer for The Bold Italic (, and a Staff Writer for Spinning Platters ( She's also been featured in Model View Culture and Frontiers LA magazine, and on Autostraddle. She hopes this has been as awkward for you as it has been for her.