Woman says her already-married ex, who dated her in high school, resurfaced years later, claimed he was still in love, and had tracked her life online
A decade after their relationship ended, she says he showed up wanting a second chance.
Some relationships end quietly. Others come back years later in ways no one expects. One TikTok creator says a message from someone she dated as a teenager forced her to see that chapter of her life very differently.
The story did not begin as one about stalking. It started as a reflection on a high school relationship before taking a turn that many viewers later described as unsettling.
TikTok creator @xanthe_blaise has drawn attention after recalling an unexpected reunion with a man she dated while she was still in high school. She says what he told her nearly a decade later caught her completely off guard.
At First, She Assumed It Was Something Else
The creator explains that she met the man when she was 16 after he did one of her piercings. She says he was 24 at the time and initially told her he would not date anyone under 18. Wanting a chance with him, she admits she lied about her age and claimed she was 17 and about to turn 18.
She says they eventually dated for around six months while she was still in high school. Looking back, she says she became uncomfortable with his constant anger and negative attitude. She later revealed her real age, hoping he would end the relationship, but says he chose to continue seeing her anyway. She ultimately decided to end the relationship herself.
Nearly 10 years later, she says he contacted her on Instagram and insisted they meet in person. The request immediately made her think something serious had happened. “My instinct was, ‘Oh my God, he has cancer,'” she recalls. “He has something… or he has some sort of STI.” Instead, she says he drove from Canberra to meet her for coffee, told her he was now married, and confessed that he believed he was still in love with her.
The creator says the conversation became even more surprising when he admitted he had been quietly following her online for years. She claims he had worked out where she lived and worked through her social media posts and had considered showing up at her workplace before deciding it “would be a bit stalkery.”
Rather than entertain the idea of reconnecting, she says she told him he was not actually in love with her. “You are not still in love with me. You don’t know me,” she recalls telling him. “When you knew me, I was a child, and I am very different now.”
She also says she encouraged him to focus on his own life and marriage instead of idealising the past, explaining that people often confuse a happy period of their lives with the person who happened to be there at the time. “I was not providing that happiness,” she says. “You had your own happiness.”
The creator says he listened to what she had to say before returning to Canberra. She adds that she has not heard from him since.
The account comes as other stories have also highlighted concerns about unwanted attention after dating, including one in which a man allegedly watched a woman’s TikTok videos to learn everything about her before their first date, and another where a woman alleged a man continued stalking her for years after a single first date.
The story prompted hundreds of reactions from viewers. Many focused on his admission that he had tracked details about her life through social media.
“This entire story was creepy,” one commenter wrote. Another added, “He drove down from Canberra???”
Others praised how she handled the conversation. “You are a very mature young person, and you just told a lot of people a bunch of truths that can help them,” one viewer commented. The creator’s account has not been independently verified.
(Featured image: Screenshot via @xanthe_blaise/TikTok)
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