He Isolated His Wife. Then She Successfully Escaped His Abuse Before He Could Move Them to Alaska: ‘I Rebuilt Our Lives and Started From a Suitcase’
Not all marriages end in happily ever after, some devolve into abuse, escape, and divorce. Alana told TikTok about her experience with domestic violence and her subsequent escape with their children.
“I was basically a slave owned by my husband for twelve years and forced to give birth to three of our five kids at home alone,” Alana alleged on TikTok, giving her own account of events. She described her husband as a “religious extremist” who didn’t let anyone in the family eat until sundown during the Sabbath.
“We were forced into isolation and required to either stay at home or in the car most of the time,” she continued. Alana also claimed that her husband was anti-establishment and that he barred Alana and his children from access to healthcare and public education.
“He was planning to move us to the Alaskan wilderness to live off the grid. His mom would’ve paid for it,” Alana said. She said that her husband was under severe stress and thought that moving the family was the best course of action. At this point, she was six months into a severe concussion after he had punched her in the head. She was slowly regaining her memories.
Alana made up her mind: this was her last chance to escape with the kids. She came forward to her husband’s mother to talk about the abuse. She assumed that her mother-in-law would intervene if she found out that there was physical abuse involved.
Her husband’s mother did nothing to help. Alana then told her neighbor and aunt about the situation, but she claimed that nobody else believed her.
A cry for help
She was in a no-contact relationship with her parents for over two years, but she had no one else to call for help.
Alana stated that her parents disapproved of her husband. They were also aware that their daughter was in crisis, but Alana had to have the will to leave before they could intervene. The day finally came, and she offered to go to the gas station for her husband.
She went out and made a phone call. Alana was desperate, but nobody picked up—the call went straight to voicemail.
“I’m over here trying to do a kamikaze mission trying to escape, and I’m calling somebody I’m not supposed to call, and if they call at the wrong times, I’m busted,” Alana said. But she left a voicemail for her parents anyway. She told them to call back at specific times so she wouldn’t get caught. She went home after.
Her parents finally called her the next morning, and she told them about her situation. She told them about the abuse and her husband’s plans to take them off-grid. They made plans, and her mother said she was going to get in touch with a lawyer and plan her daughter’s escape.
Escaping abuse
In the meantime, Alana started getting rid of journals and other items that she didn’t want him to discover. She also prepared the documents she needed to take with her.
Alana kept the escape plan a secret from her children for a week. Then, she told her eldest child about the escape the night before, and the rest of the kids found out only after their father left. They only had fifteen minutes to pack their belongings. Alana told them they only needed to pack light because the lawyer informed her that they could retrieve the rest of their belongings after ten days.
“Little did I know, we were never coming back,” she said. Alana’s mother and brother reached their driveway. The family threw their items in the van and got away. Then, Alana and the kids hid from her husband.
In fear, she said she even slept with a crowbar with the kids in the room. After two days, her husband sent the police to her mother’s house. But her mother went outside with the lawyer on the phone, and the cops left without speaking to Alana.
Her husband sent her divorce papers after. The judge gave temporary sole custody to Alana, which was pending upon investigation. Her husband took his own life before a second court hearing. In a twist of fate, she and her children were finally free from her husband.
“I rebuilt our lives and started from one suitcase. It took us seven years,” Alana said. She and the kids were fortunate to have gotten away from the abuse, but it was not a quick and easy process.
(featured images: Ketut Subiyanto)
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