Woman accepts date with influencer after seeing his follower count—then is annoyed when he vlogs the entire date: ‘Y’all sound like two peas in a pod’
An influencer with half a million followers slides into a woman’s DMs, and she agrees to meet him for coffee. However, she can’t believe that he pulls out a camera and tries to vlog the entire date, giving her the ick.
In a video with over 6.1 million views, TikToker N4SHA (@naash.fm) laments that “social media is ruining dating” after her recent first date with an influencer. She notes that she doesn’t typically answer DMs from men, but saw that the influencer was a “creative.”
“I love other creatives. Especially if it’s an opportunity where we can both get creative together,” she says.
The pair agrees to meet at a cafe, and N4SHA gets there first. She immediately notices that the man walks in with a vlog camera.
“I know this boy is not vlogging this experience,” she remarks. “Wrong!”
As soon as he sits down, he asks her if she “consents” to being filmed on the date. She reluctantly agrees, and the pair walks up to order their coffees.
Did he give her the ick while vlogging the date?
N4SHA cringes as the man asks for the cashier to comp their coffees, trying to flex his high follower count. The worker tells him she can’t comp anything because collaborations have to be pre-organized. He swipes his card and films the transaction.
“I got such an ick during that whole interaction because why are you trying to comp $13 worth of coffee,” she says.
The man’s shenanigans continue when the worker calls their name to pick up the coffees. He tells N4SHA to come with him so they can take an “aesthetic” video of them picking up the coffee at the same time. However, he makes her repeat it over three times to get it right.
“Dude, like, hurry up. There’s other people that want to get their [coffee],” she says. “At this point, I’m getting aggravated.”
N4SHA says that they only talked for 10 minutes, uninterrupted by his vlogging after getting the coffee. She ultimately decided to block him before the date even ended.
Does vlogging cause tension in relationships?
While vlogging can be lucrative for influencers, some report that the practice causes real issues in relationships. One user on the r/relationship_advice subreddit laments that his girlfriend vlogs almost all of their day-to-day hangouts. His final straw was when she started filming a fight between him and his dad.
In the comments, others react to the invasive vlogs.
“Game over. Immediately. I don’t even share personal conflict with my partner with close friends let alone strangers on the internet,” one writes.
Another says, “This is your life on camera forever and a day now! Long as you are with her this is your life. She has been respectful of your privacy till it was interesting it’s going to get worse. Up to you how much of your life you want to share with us.”
Viewers debate what went wrong on the date
In the comments of N4SHA’s video, viewers are split on whether she should have expected her date to make content. Some say it’s on her for accepting a date with an influencer because she wanted to get “creative” together.
“‘Social media is ruining dating’ but then goes to say you only responded to him bc of his follower count…huh?” one questions.
Another says, “Don’t date people based on their follower count and u might have better luck finding a genuine connection.” N4SHA pushes back, writing, “I’m not looking for a ‘genuine connection’ I very clearly said I’m looking for creative collaborations.”
However, others say the man was out of line for trying to vlog the date.
“Would of left lol . I get annoyed to easy!” a viewer writes.
@naash.fm Dating has become such a task ? #storytime #dating ♬ original sound – N4SHA
“He was doing wayyyyy too much! That would have annoyed the hell out of me!” a second exclaims.
In a comment, N4SHA clarifies that she wasn’t upset about the vlog. She writes, “I wasn’t upset because he did his vlog. I was upset because he showed me that everything he did in his vlogs was strictly for aesthetics, and it wasn’t genuine to him at all.”
The Mary Sue reached out to N4SHA via email and Instagram direct message for further comment. We will update the story when she replies.
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