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Forget Big Dick Energy, We’re Making Big Clit Energy a Thing Now

Because ladies have swagger too.

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If you’ve spent any time on the internet this summer, you’ve undoubtedly come across the phrase “Big Dick Energy”. The term was coined on Twitter by @imbobswaget after the tragic death of Anthony Bourdain.

The term spread like wildfire, especially after Ariana Grande jokingly tweeted about her fiancé Pete Davidson’s huge junk, but Big Dick Energy is more than just penis size. Allison P. Davis at The Cut explains it as:

“BDE is a quiet confidence and ease with oneself that comes from knowing you have an enormous penis and you know what to do with it. It’s not cockiness, it’s not a power trip — it’s the opposite: a healthy, satisfied, low-key way you feel yourself. Some may call this ‘oh he/she fucks’ vibe, but that is different: you can fuck, but not have BDE. Some may call this ‘well-adjusted,’ but we know the truth.”

Can ladies have BDE? Sure, but why limit ourselves to this neo-Freudian construct? Let’s think inside the box and make something that’s just ours. I propose Big Clit Energy.

Big Clit Energy (BCE) is the self-possessed swagger and confidence of a woman who doesn’t care what anyone (but especially men) thinks of her. She is assertive, bold, and unafraid to speak her mind. A woman with BCE is empowered by the complete lack of fucks she gives. And no, you don’t have to have a clitoris to rock some BCE. BCE is leaving the house without a bra on and eating a burrito with your bare hands.

When I think of BCE, the first thing that comes to mind is this excerpt from Tina Fey’s book Bossypants, where she describes working on Saturday Night Live with BCE all-star Amy Poehler:

Amy was in the middle of some such nonsense with Seth Meyers across the table, and she did something vulgar as a joke. I can’t remember what it was exactly, except it was dirty and loud and “unladylike”,
Jimmy Fallon […] turned to her and in a faux-squeamish voice said, “Stop that! It’s not cute! I don’t like it.”
Amy dropped what she was doing, went black in the eyes for a second, and wheeled around on him. “I don’t fucking care if you like it.” Jimmy was visibly startled. Amy went right back to enjoying her ridiculous bit.
With that exchange, a cosmic shift took place. Amy made it clear that she wasn’t there to be cute. She wasn’t there to play wives and girlfriends in the boys’ scenes. She was there to do what she wanted to do and she did not fucking care if you like it.”

Along with Poehler, other folks rocking BCE include Carrie Fisher, Cate Blanchett, Tiffany Haddish, Aubrey Plaza, Bette Davis, Janelle Monae, Angela Bassett, Holland Taylor, Margaret Cho, Wanda Sykes, and Meryl Streep. Fictional characters include Jillian Holtzmann, Faith Lehane, Wynonna Earp, Imperator Furiosa, Kate Kane/Batwoman, Harley Quinn, Sarah Connor, and Poison Ivy. Veronica has it; Betty doesn’t. Princess Leia has it; Padmé doesn’t. Arya Stark has it; Sansa Stark doesn’t. Valkyrie has it; Scarlet Witch doesn’t. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez definitely has it. Alex Vause has it; Piper Chapman doesn’t.

So now is our time, ladies. Let’s rock that #BigClitEnergy and take over the damn world.

Who are your favorite BCE folks, real or fictional? Let us know in the comments!

(image: Syfy)

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Chelsea was born and raised in New Orleans, which explains her affinity for cheesy grits and Britney Spears. She currently lives in sunny Los Angeles, with her husband and two poorly behaved rescue dogs. She is a former roller derby girl and a black belt in Judo, so she is not to be trifled with. She loves the word “Jewess” and wishes more people used it to describe her.