After dating 100 men, woman says she’s learned not to trust anything they say or do. She explains why: ‘Getting all my reproductive organs taken out’
She went looking for love and found a hundred reasons to think twice
Dating 100 men might sound like enough experience to understand how relationships work. But for one woman, meeting that many men only taught her why she shouldn’t trust what they say or do.
From women questioning whether anyone is faithful anymore to others discovering red flags they missed in relationships, dating disappointments are nothing new. But going through nearly 100 men and coming away with the same lesson is quite a lot.
TikTok creator Marlena Rodriguez (@marlenajr) has been dating aggressively since September 2025. After trying dating apps, meeting men through friends, and even having one-night stands, she has reached one conclusion: men’s words and actions cannot always be trusted.
That’s one way to learn about men
Rodriguez begins her video by revealing, “I’m getting all my reproductive organs taken out,” explaining that she needs to take a break from dating. But before stepping away, she wanted to share what she learned from her experiences over the past year.
“I met probably, like, 100 men,” she explains. Her approach wasn’t limited to dating apps. She met people through mutual friends, went out to meet men in person, organized a singles party, had one-night stands, and even entered a relationship. In her words, she had done it all.
Despite trying different approaches, Rodriguez believes there is only one lesson worth sharing. “You cannot believe anything a man says or does,” she declares. She repeats the warning several times, insisting that women should stop trying to make sense of men’s behavior.
According to Rodriguez, the problem isn’t simply that men’s words and actions sometimes contradict each other. It’s that their behavior doesn’t always reflect their intentions, and sometimes they might not have any intentions at all.
“You cannot try to find the logic in anything a man says or does, because their actions and words don’t line up with their intentions,” she argues.
The idea even confuses Rodriguez herself. She admits that the explanation doesn’t make sense to her, but believes that’s exactly why women should stop searching for meaning behind everything men do.
She goes further, suggesting that the only way to know whether a man’s words and actions were genuine is when his life is over, and the entire story can finally be understood.
Rodriguez acknowledges that her perspective might sound bitter. However, she jokes that if she were truly bitter, she would stop dating completely and have her vagina removed too. Despite her upcoming surgery, that’s the one thing she plans to keep.
Instead of giving up on love, she finds comfort in lowering her expectations. “There’s a lot of peace in just remembering not to believe anything they say or do,” she concludes.
Some women learned this the hard way
Rodriguez’s video struck a chord with women who had their own stories about men’s behavior. Many agreed that trying to understand someone’s intentions can become exhausting, especially when their actions don’t match their promises.
“They lie so bad it’s weird,” one commenter wrote. Another added, “They lie. They lie. They. Lie. That’s the constant!”
One woman recalled asking a man to be honest with her, only to receive an unexpected response. “This summer I told a man to ‘just be real with me’ and he goes ‘I think I need a definition of ‘be real’,” she shared.
Others pointed out that even long-term relationships don’t necessarily guarantee honesty. One commenter reflected, “after 12 years of marriage I learned they can just not give a fuck about you out of the blue.”
One commenter recommended the “we’ll see” method, suggesting that women respond with those two words whenever a man makes a promise. Another advised, “You just always gotta be prepared to leave. Always.”
One commenter offered hope, writing, “You can still date men and find love while keeping this in your back pocket.” Rodriguez also believes exceptions exist, though she hasn’t met them yet.
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