Los Angeles woman meets Hinge date at Santa Monica farmer’s market. Then she ends it 15 minutes later after he asks an offensive question
When you know exactly what you want from a romantic prospect, it doesn’t take long to tell if a first date is going nowhere.
Still, not everyone acts on that right away, whether it’s due to social pressure or simply not knowing how to handle an awkward situation.
One Los Angeles woman, however, showed viewers what it looks like to politely and firmly leave a first date she wasn’t comfortable in.
What Went Wrong During the Date?
TikTok creator Mia (@morelikemii) says she ended her farmer’s market date in Los Angeles almost as quickly as it began.
In a video she filmed while still at the market, which has garnered over 3.2 million views, she walks through what led her to cut the date short after just 15 minutes.
“I just went on the farmers market date, and it lasted for 15 minutes,” Mia says at the start of the clip.
According to Mia, the date was his idea, and it got off to a rough start before they even met. She explains that although they had agreed to meet at 11 a.m., she planned ahead for traffic and arrived on time.
“I knew it was gonna take me an hour, so I left at ten,” she says, adding that she values being punctual. Her date, however, didn’t have the same principles.
“He texts me… he’s like, ‘I’m gonna be 30 minutes late,’” Mia recalls. She says that immediately rubbed her the wrong way, especially since he had planned the outing. “That’s an ick,” she adds.
When he finally arrived, Mia says the conversation didn’t improve things.
“We’re going around the farmers market… it’s super awkward,” she explains. Despite trying to keep things going, she says she wasn’t getting much in return.
“I’m like, how was your day?” she recalls asking. His response, she says, was minimal. “He’s like, ‘this,’” meaning he had just woken up.
Mia says that the lack of effort continued for several minutes, leaving her to carry the interaction.
“It was like five or 10 minutes of that… just giving me no personality,” she says.
Things Fell Apart When the Conversation Turned to Work
Mia explains that she told him about her career, listing multiple roles.
“I’m a professional dancer… I do content creation, and I do web design,” she told him.
His response, she recalls, crossed a line. “He’s like, ‘oh, like a stripper?’” Mia says.
She says she immediately pushed back.
“I literally look at him and I go, ‘don’t p*** me off,’” she recalls.
At that point, Mia says she had already had enough.
“You’re already 30 minutes late for the date,” she says. “And now you’re going to make stripper jokes about my career?”
Rather than continue the interaction, she decided to leave.
“I’m actually not having fun, and I wanna leave,” she explains. “I’m like, ‘Hey, actually, I think this date needs to end. Bye.’”
She says she walked away on the spot, choosing instead to spend the rest of her time alone. “I’m gonna go and get lunch by myself at Elefante,” Mia adds.
Commenters Praise Her For Leaving Early
In the comments section, viewers backed her decision to walk away and focused on how she handled the situation.
“‘What kind of dancer are you’ is how you ask,” one person wrote.
“‘I think this date needs to end’ is so fierce,” another said.
“We need to normalize leaving a date whenever we know we aren’t feeling it,” a third added. “Good for you girl!”
The Mary Sue has reached out to Mia via email for comment and additional details.
When To Leave A First Date?
First dates are inherently a little uncomfortable. You’re usually meeting a stranger while both of you carry some expectation of connecting.
That can make it hard to tell whether what you’re feeling is normal awkwardness or your gut telling you this isn’t going to work. If it’s the latter, it’s often best to end things sooner rather than later.
According to a blog post by Refinery29, things shift when rude or offensive comments come into play. In those cases, experts suggest being honest about how the comment made you feel and giving the other person a chance to respond. If it still doesn’t sit right, that’s a clear sign to end the date.
Ultimately, if a date isn’t working, continuing it only wastes time for both people.
@morelikemii He said his humor is sarcastic…babe there’s a difference between sarcasm and making degrading comments #firstdate #date #hinge #hingedating #baddate ♬ original sound – Mia
The Mary Sue has reached out to Mia via email for comment and additional details.
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