‘His ego was bruised’: Utah man asks woman out on a date. Then he sees where she actually lives—and tries to switch-up
A first date can make or break the chance of a romantic relationship taking off. Any wrong move extinguishes the potential sparks fast.
And dating in 2026, there’s plenty that can hit the fan. For this woman, a first date with a man she met on Instagram didn’t even make it out of the messages after he wrote something that made her call it off.
Date At First Message
“OK, guys. I need help deciphering if I’m off-base here or if this man’s ego is bruised,” Utah TikTok creator Gracie Rasmussen (@graciejade) starts the video. “It proves another point that it’s not the women out here, it’s the men.”
Then, she creates the scene for how it all first began on Instagram.
“First off, I get a DM from this guy,” she says. “So, he gets my number and we start texting.”
From there, everything seemed to go smoothly, setting a date for Saturday at 7 pm. A message on the day of the first date ignited a stream of avalanches.
“Today, he goes, ‘What’s your address?’ At 4:51, he sends that,” she says, unveiling the green screen messages between her and the man. “I give him my address. He said, ‘What are the odds you’d meet me downtown? Could grab food, maybe hit the arcade, or City Creek, or something?'”
Immediately, the content creator saw red flags. “What is literally the point of asking me out on a date if you just can’t plan anything or are putting zero percent energy in?”
The Straw That Broke The Camel’s Back
Confused, Rasmussen asked the man’s age, and his answer bewildered her more. “You’re 26 years old and you don’t know how to plan a date?” she questions, perplexed.
Instantly, all her interest evaporated. “If you’re gonna put in zero effort in, why am I going to spend my time and my energy [trying] to get to know you?” she says.
His response of not wanting to pick her up exacerbated these feelings.
“I said I was interested on Instagram before I knew all of this,” she adds. “And this is also he ‘planned the date’ on Instagram.” When the content creator revealed the conversation, it was the man who kept inquiring what Rasmussen wanted to do in Salt Lake City. Not one message from the man contained any suggestions.
“It’s my pet peeve when men are like, ‘What do you wanna do?’ Don’t ask me that. Just plan something, K?” she says. But the final nail in the coffin was his last reply.
“‘I don’t see how that’s the bare minimum lol. I’m coming from the opoosite way but I can see I dodged a bullet and coming from you, that’s a compliment. God bless,’” she reads out loud. “You asked me out on a date just solely off of my Instagram. So, obviously there was something there that you liked.”
Before wrapping up, Rasmussen asked, “What do you guys think?”
Viewers Answers Varied
Rasmussen’s clip garnered over 12,000 views since Feb 28. Many weighed in with their thoughts and opinions. The majority sided with her.
“I agree with you 100%!!!” one viewer commented.
“If he doesn’t want to pick you up then he’s a jerk with too many options so he doesn’t care,” another stated.
“His ego was bruised,” a third said.
However, some created securities on the man’s behalf.
“I think today’s world, [it’s] fair to meet on the first date. I think you’re expecting [too much]. Why should we put a ton of effort [into] someone you’ve never met?” one commenter remarked.
“26, not to stereotype, but he is young and immature!!!” a second wrote.
Who Should Plan The First Date?
There’s no doubt that dating has always been difficult. Modern times may be more challenging since people are becoming more socially disconnected. Traditionally, the man was expected to map these outings. Casual dates, such as dinner, movies, or coffee, can be acceptable. Most women don’t want to waste their time on a casual fling, per YourTango. Instead, it’s the woman who perceives this gesture as a reflection of the man’s interest. When a man formulates a thoughtful date, it doesn’t go unnoticed.
Reaching the day of the first date can work out as The Mary Sue covered, but communicating beforehand is preferable. Since we live in a flexible era, the one who initiates the date is the one who should map it out, regardless of gender.
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The Maty Sue reached out to Rasmussen via email and TikTok comment.
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