Atlanta man shows up for first date at AMC theater. Then his Tinder date leaves after seeing his outfit: ‘I was told I was doing ‘too much’
How should you dress for a first date? That’s a question that’s bothered those looking for love for centuries—but one TikToker found the answer the hard way.
In the TikTok, which has amassed 4.6 million views, Peron Fox (@peronfox) spoke to the camera while inside a movie theater.
“Y’all, I’m at the movies and my date just left me,” he shared. “I don’t even know what to say. Like, oh, I’m so embarrassed.”
He then went on to explain the full story. “OK, long story short, we just started talking a few days ago on Tinder and we decided to go on a date,” he said. “So of course, I wanted to look nice. So I decided that I will go get a haircut, you know, put on a new outfit, and everything. And I was told that I was doing too much. It looks like I’m trying to be something that I’m not. Inauthentic or something like that.”
However, Fox doesn’t agree with this conclusion.
“I don’t think I’m doing too much,” he lamented. “Y’all tell me what y’all think. Because I think I’m doing just enough. This is a first date. And yeah, let me know what y’all think. Hold on, let me show y’all. Yeah, y’all tell me if I’m doing too much.”
He then repositioned the camera and walked back so the whole of his outfit was in the frame. He was wearing a mink fur coat, a medallion, a collared shirt and tie, and a pale beige pinstriped suit.
“No, right?” he insisted. “Like, this is a normal day outfit, no? I guess not.”
@peronfox So yeah, I went to the movies yesterday and got STRAIGHT UP ditched… apparently I was doing “too much“& IDC. I’m gonna take that as a compliment… because I really just wanted to wear this outfit somewhere. #gay #lgtbq?️? #tinder @Tinder ♬ original sound – Peron?
The reception was mixed
As for commenters, it was a mixed bag.
“You put on a suit and a full fur to go to the movies?” one asked. “I was so ready to defend you too friend,” a second admitted. While a third echoed, “I was on your side until Lucious Lyon stepped into the frame.”
However, other commenters assured Fox that this person just didn’t match his energy.
“Am I the only one that thinks that nothing is wrong with the outfit?” a fourth wrote. “That person just wasn’t on your level then. You need somebody to match your energy. nobody will ever stop me from looking fly whenever I want to.”
While a fifth added, “You absolutely are doing too much and you should be with somebody who loves that about you friend.”
Singer and actress Chloe Bailey even weighed in, saying, “You’re gonna find somebody who loves your style! They’re not meant for you.”
Fox also made a couple of more videos referencing the awkward moment.
In one clip, he gave 1 million viewers a closer look at his outfit, while in another, he joined the “in your twenties” trend by recounting his experience and noting how TikTokers told him in “10,000 different ways” that the outfit was, indeed, too much.
What should you wear on a first date?
According to style psychologist Shakaila Forbes-Bell, your first-date outfit is less about what is and isn’t “too much,” and is more about how you feel inside.
“When deciding what to wear, it’s best to utilise the theory of enclothed cognition to embrace confidence,” she told Marie Claire.
The term, which was coined by Hajo Adam and Adam D. Galinsky back in 2012, essentially means that if you wear clothes in the style of a person you believe has a lot of confidence, you will become more confident in turn.
“Think of a person who exudes confidence to you,” Forbes-Bell explains. “Ask yourself this – what styles do they wear that you like? Those will be your perfect first-date outfits.”
With this line of thought, Fox’s outfit choice for his first date can be seen as a triumph rather than a defeat, as many argue that his outfit in particular exudes a lot of confidence, whether he intended it or not.
Fox didn’t immediately respond to The Mary Sue’s request for comment via TikTok comment and email.
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