‘The waiter saved you from yourself’: California woman sneaks away to pay for date after he pays for first 3. Then the server intervenes
A woman tries to generously pay for the fourth date with a man by sneaking up to the server. However, she says the server refuses her card and “holds [her] accountable.”
In a video with over 29,500 views, TikToker Tyson (@bbgrltyson) says she just finished dinner with a man with whom she had gone on three previous dates. She shares that he paid for all of the dates so far.
“This time, I was like, it’s like the fourth time. Let me go sneak away and pay for it,” she says. “It wasn’t that expensive. It’s the right thing to do.”
The TikToker tells her date that she needs to use the restroom and walks up to her server to ask to pay. However, the server refuses her request.
Why did the server refuse to let the woman pay?
“The guy that works there goes, ‘You may not [pay],'” she recounts. She tells the server that the man has paid every time so far, and she wants to return the favor.
The server still refuses, insisting the bill is “for him.”
“I was like, ‘OK, period.’ Thanks for holding the standard,” she says. “I don’t know what it is in this day and age, but I feel like I have to pay or split.”
According to a survey by Nasdaq, 72% of Americans agree that men should pay for the first date in straight relationships. However, couples may begin to split the cost of dates more often as the relationship progresses.
Still, popular creators like SheraSeven advocate for women to let men pay for all outings as part of their “masculine” responsibilities when dating. The idea has gained traction on social media, with fans citing the wage gap and traditional gender roles as reasons for men to pay.
How did viewers react to the server?
In the comments, viewers praise the server for telling the TikToker not to sneakily pay for the bill.
“That waiter saved you from yourself,” one writes.
“Girl don’t try that next time u were divinely protected,” another says.
“I used to be like this I always wanted to pay to make myself feel worthy or good enough for being on that date . If they invited you you should feel good letting them pay because you are the prize,” a third adds.
Men in the comments weigh in on the TikToker’s worries about showing appreciation for the date.
“You can appreciate by saying thank you at the end of the date,” a commenter suggests.
“As a guy I’m happy for my lady to pay, as long as she uses my card. A woman should never be splitting the bill or paying for anything,” another writes.
@bbgrltyson Right?
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