New York City man flies woman to Atlanta for their third date. Then he makes a strange request about her airport attire: ‘I should have known’

A woman’s viral story about a date gone wrong got viewers locked in. Even they couldn’t anticipate how it would end.

In a three-part “story time” TikTok with over 84,000 views, user Blair Lancer (@blairlancer) explained how a day trip date completely failed. And made her think her date was crazy.

“Enough people have told me that I need to share this crazy dating story,” the woman began the clip.

Then she told viewers the background.

According to Blair, she went on a date after being set up with a guy through mutual friends. She figured that the date would be safer because mutual friends vetted him.

She couldn’t have been more wrong

During their initial encounter, the man insisted that he wanted to take her out on vacation. Afterwards, the woman acknowledged that she did not have a great time on the date.

However, her mom convinced her to give the man a second chance.

On the second date, the woman still didn’t feel a spark. However, she continued to brush off her lack of interest by saying she often dismisses people too quickly.

During their third date, the man continued to pressure Blair into taking a trip with him.

Eventually, she accepted an invitation to take a day trip with the man to Atlanta to watch a Knicks game.

That’s when he told her that she had to wear heels to the airport.

“He also said I was only allowed to wear leather pants and that he was buying me a pair from Khaite lmao still waiting,” the caption from the third part of the video series read.

What happened during the ‘horror date?’

On the day of the trip, the woman woke up slightly hungover after having gone out with friends the night before and enjoying herself.

She had cut her night short to make sure she would be up in time for her flight and still show up for the date.

Her date, however, was less mindful of timing.

Shortly before she was set to leave, he told her he had booked her a later flight so she could sleep longer—even though she had already gotten ready.

Then he sent a car too late to catch the later flight he booked.

By the time Blair arrived at the terminal, she said she was sweaty from running, and the flight had already left.

That’s when the man decided to try to convince her to go away with him on vacation, yet again.

By that point, she realized she could not trust him.

Was his behavior a red flag as a date?

In the video’s comments section, many pointed out that the man’s behavior was problematic.

“This is insane ?” user Brittany Ford said.

“Wow what a douche bag. Guy likes to play games. Wonder if he’s done this to other women?” user
titan126lrd commented.

“The guy sounds like a narcissistic sociopath,” user Jac wrote.

“Correct,” Blair responded.

While it is not possible to diagnose someone else, viewers overwhelmingly agreed that the pattern described—persistent pressure after refusal, attempts to override her autonomy, and controlling logistics under the guise of “helping”—raised serious red flags.

Even his desire to tell her what she should wear to the airport was a form of control, which experts often warn is a “red flag” for future abusive behavior.

The story also sparked broader conversation about boundaries in early dating, especially how easy it can be to dismiss discomfort when someone appears confident, generous, or well-intentioned.

“Why did you give him so many chances?” user lanaashford09 asked.

@blairlancer Only to find out this whole thing was a “test”…wait for it #datingstorytime #datingstory ♬ original sound – Blair Lancer

Ultimately, listening to initial instincts matters. Even when mutual friends are involved, or a situation feels “safe on paper,” people still have the right to slow things down, say no without justification, and disengage when something feels off.

The Mary Sue reached out to Blair Lancer via email for comment.

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