Woman sends husband to buy Lucerne French Vanilla coffee creamer. Then she gets a text: ‘I would legit break up on the spot’
'Like genuinely I don’t know how people put up with incompetence.'
Sending a man to the grocery store for one item is apparently still a high-risk social experiment in 2025. One woman learned this the hard way after asking her husband to grab Lucerne French Vanilla coffee creamer, only to receive a photo of an entire dairy case.
What’s even worse is the text insisting that there wasn’t any. The twist? The creamer was literally in the frame, just waiting to be circled in red like evidence in a true-crime documentary. The internet, naturally, did what it does best: declared this a breakup-level offense and added yet another entry to the ever-growing case file titled Why We Can’t Send Men Shopping.
What was wrong with this routine grocery trip?
The tale is cut, dry, and as old as time. Send a man shopping and expect to get anything but what you asked for. The internet is filled with many such cases, and @aubyangel adds one to the list.
Apparently, the internet hasn’t had enough of it yet, seeing her video garnered 2.8 million views. Her TikTok is simply three screenshots that tell a story of multitudes. The first shows a picture her husband sends of the coffee creamers in the grocery store’s fridge.
His text below reads: “No French vanilla what you think baby.” The second photo is simply zoomed in on the right-hand corner of the original photo, clearly showing the creamer she had asked for. In the final part, she sends back the same photo but with the creamer circled in red.
Her text reads: “Circled it here for you king.” He says his thanks, and the story ends. The caption reads: “Sent a man shopping (my mistake). happens to the best of us.”
Is it Really That Bad?
As mentioned before, this story is not the only one. The Mary Sue covered a similar story where a boyfriend was sent into a gas station in search of Chex Mix. He returned empty-handed and said there was none. The girlfriend then went in and came out triumphantly with not one, but two bags of Chex Mix.
In that story, the boyfriend was confident that he was in the right and only changed his tune when the girlfriend returned. In a related topic, there has been a widespread notion that male Instacart shoppers are quite notorious for this, too. From the entire internet joining hands to complain, to singular stories that go viral. Some stories include weird substitutions to flat-out botched orders. The question then is: “Why are men so bad at finding things?”
Does it Go Back to Cavemen Origins?
The term ‘weaponized incompetence’ may have been thrown around a lot, but another hypothesis is also worth noting. In 2012, National Geographic reported on a study conducted to test men’s and women’s visual prowess.
The conclusion was that, “Females are better at discriminating among colors, researchers say, while males excel at tracking fast-moving objects and discerning detail from a distance—evolutionary adaptations possibly linked to our hunter-gatherer past.”
The study went on to discuss the effects of colors and speed between men and women. In their opinion, it supports the notion that “the sexes evolved distinct psychological abilities to fit their prehistoric roles.” Of course, it is just a hypothesis. In the r/homemaking subreddit, many Redditors battle between biological causes or just pure incompetence. Some insist that the prehistoric theory makes more sense, while others argue that it’s not that hard to make an effort to find things.
Viewers want him gone
First off, many comments are calling out the creator because, apparently, she missed a French vanilla coffee creamer right at the forefront of the photo. One viewer with over 85,000 likes says, “Yall meant together lmao.”
However, the creator edited her caption and gave more information regarding the issue. “I know there is another vanilla right in front i just don’t like sugar free so i circled the other one,” she explains.
Other viewers choose to comment on the husband’s inability to find the creamer. One viewer says, “I would legit break up on the spot.” Some replies in the thread beg her to “be serious,” but she insists that she is.
Another viewer says, “I’d block him b/c what????” Similarly, another says, “u better than me girl… this would pmo.”
A third says, “I actually don’t have the patience for this.” Lastly, one says, “Like genuinely I don’t know how people put up with incompetence I can never do it again.”
There are some viewers defending the boyfriend and some saying it isn’t that deep. “There’s evolutionary driven biological explanations for why this happens (men can’t find things as easily as women) but people will still act like it’s intentionally malicious or ‘weaponized incompetence’ like be so fr.”
Finally, one viewer shares, “’this would pmo’ yall are clearly single for a reason if something so small like not seeing something at a store and STILL checking in with you to make sure you still get something you’d actually want would upset you.”
The Mary Sue reached out to the creator via TikTok comment.
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