‘He seemed cool’: Los Angeles woman goes on first date with man she believes to be 23 years old. Then he tries to convince her to move to Miami
A first date has always been a matter of luck. In the modern era, searching for that special person has proven to be more challenging.
A VeryWellMind survey echoed this sentiment, reporting that half of Americans believe dating is more difficult than a decade prior. And we hear it across social media of first date horror stories after the other. While some are as mild as low effort plans and payment conflicts, others are as extreme as lying about relationship statuses and dangerously threatening behaviors.
For one woman, her date was high in the severity scale: he turned out to be a demoralizing catfish. “I literally just had the worst first date experience of my life,” TikTok creator Greta Devereux (@greta.div) says, sobbing. Then, she dives into her story.
A First Date Gone Terribly Sideways
“This guy DMed me and he seems cool on Instagram but he also seems like he was 23 [expletive] years old,” she says.
Deception on social media is a tale as old as time in the digital age, whether it’s posting outdated photos, filtering them slightly (or beyond recognition), or just flat-out using someone else’s photos. However, some of us don’t expect to be unsuspecting victims.
When her date arrived, she unknowingly became one. “He shows up and he’s 35,” she says. But this was the tip of the iceberg. “At first, I thought maybe he was a little autistic ‘cause he was being quite weird,” the content creator says. “Then, I came to realize that he’s just a [expletive] weirdo.”
“So, the second we walk into the bar, he’s not even looking at me or trying to start conversations with me,” Devereux says. “He’s looking at every other girls’ [expletive].”
In addition to having a large ego about being an influencer manager, what the man does next is the cherry on top. “He’s trying to get me to do OF (OnlyFans) essentially and he’s trying to convince me to do it,” she recalls. “He’s like, ‘That’s how you’re gonna grow. You need to move to Miami. I’ll help you out.’”
It all became too much for Devereux. “Is this what LA is like because it [expletive] sucks. I walked out before I even finished my plate,” she concludes.
How Common Is Catfishing?
Masquerading behind fake photos online has made this all too common–and easy. This phenomenon has exploded not just in everyday interactions but in the dating scene as well. A survey reported by Vice revealed that 50% of young people have gone on dates with people who looked different from their profile picture. To make matters worse, 1 in 10 people refuse to update their dating profile picture even if their appearances have changed.
For most young individuals, it’s a major deal breaker, with 62% of millennials and 54% of Gen Z ending a date or declining a second one. Now that AI has become prevalent, this trend doesn’t seem to be slowing down anytime soon.
Viewers Are Divided
Devereux’s video racked up over 209,000 views, sparking insensitivity and sympathy in the comments section.
“Why are we crying?” one viewer asked.
“How do you let a random person affect you that much emotionally,” a second remarked.
“It’s not that serious,” a third stated.
“These comments are not it. That is horrible. I’m sorry girl, I’d be crying too,” a fourth said.
“That’s awful. He ain’t worth your energy boo. Good will come your way,” a fifth echoed.
“You got it girl, you deserve better!” a sixth agreed.
A Deeper Dive
Devereux rehashed the date with a clear mind in a follow-up video.
“So, this guy DMs me. He asked me to go to this really nice restaurant in Beverly Hills. It is an Italian restaurant,” she said. “I am Celiac. So, Italian isn’t the best for me.”
Despite the man disregarding this, she still agreed to the date. “First, he picks me up and bro is 35 with a receding hairline, 5 ‘8, and skinny as [expletive],” the content creator says. “We go to the restaurant and we’re waiting for a table, he’s literally ogling at the girls around us. He’s looking them up and down, smiling at them.”
Once they sat down, the server dropped off bread for them, which she couldn’t eat because of her autoimmune disease. His response?
“‘Oh, that sucks,’” Devereux recalled him saying nonchalantly. But the real kicker happens after they order their appetizers. “We’re talking and he’s showing me all of these influencers that he manages,” she said. “He’s trying to flex.”
The Straw That Ended The Date
After he mentioned influencer and former adult creator Camilla Araújo, he allegedly tried to persuade her into that similar direction. “He was telling me about Camila, ‘She made so much money on OF, like millions of dollars a month. Wouldn’t you wanna do that?’” the content creator recounts the man saying, followed by: “‘You should move to Miami.’”
Subsequently, the constant pressure got under Devereux’s skin. “He was trying to freaking convince me to do OF. I could tell he was trying to manipulate me into doing [expletive] like that,” she says. “Anyways, I went to the bathroom and started crying.”
Not withstanding it any longer, she lied her way out of the date. “He was nice enough to order me an Uber home,” she said.
@greta.div Did not even call me pretty or anything #dating #datingtipsforwomen ♬ original sound – Greta Devereux
The Mary Sue reached out to Devereux via email.
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