Navy veteran waits 4 weeks to ‘link’ with a woman and gets ghosted. Then his friend opens her Instagram: ‘Females out here are straight succubus’
Kinda feeling bad for him.
Dating in the “big ’26” often feels like a battlefield. But for TikTok creator and navy veteran @youngestunc, it was a four-week tactical waiting game. To make it worse, the game ended in a total digital ambush.
In a video that has garnered over 47,000 views, the creator recounts the “canon event” of being played by a woman he was genuinely excited to meet. His tells the story as a blunt reminder that you should never get too comfortable in the talking stages these days. Because in the era of Instagram stories, everyone’s “plans” are only as solid as the next club invite.
The two-man date was doomed from the start
The saga began with a planned double date involving the creator, his best friend, and two women. While the friend successfully “closed the loop” within the first few days, the creator spent three weeks dealing with constant cancellations and logistical hurdles. This even included a brief stint of being arrested.
The man describes that there were red flags since the beginning. Every time he made plans to link up with the woman, something would come up. And the constant back-and-forth went on for four weeks straight. But despite the red flags, he decided to give the situation one last chance in week four. He finally had his hopes high to link up for drinks on a Saturday night after the woman herself asked him out.
The veteran’s Saturday night plans took a weird turn
On Wednesday or Thursday of week four, the woman texted to make plans for Saturday. For the next two days, the man constantly confirmed it with her asking if they are still linking up. Keeping his hopes up, the woman replied, enthusiastically every time.
But as Saturday afternoon approached, the communication, which had been fast and consistent, suddenly slowed down. When the creator finally sent a text asking for a specific time to meet, the woman hit him with a vague, “I don’t know. Let me figure it out for you.”
By 7:00 PM, she had stopped opening his messages entirely. This left the creator and his friend to put on their “fits” and head out for a healthy meal while waiting for a move that would never come.
An Instagram story revealed the hard truth
While “grubbing” on their chicken, the friend checked Instagram and saw their women posted up at a club. The man initially gave her the benefit of doubt and thought they might just have got there first to imvite them over. But the video also showed the women being approached by other men, confirming they had no intention of following through on their plans.
To test her honesty, the creator texted the woman asking where she was, only for her to casually admit she was at a bar. She completely disregarded the fact that she was supposed to be with him. Baffled, the creator thought to himself, “did we really just get played like that?”
Why did the woman choose to lead the veteran on?
In the world of modern dating, “benching” or “breadcrumbing” has become a common, albeit frustrating, tactic. The woman likely kept the creator as a “Plan B.” He was probably a backup option in case her primary Saturday night plans fell through.
By giving him vague “yes” responses throughout the week, she ensured she had a guaranteed social invitation. All while she waited for a better offer at the club. This lack of transparency is often a result of the “paradox of choice” in digital dating. People are often hesitant to commit to one person when a more exciting alternative might be just a scroll away.
The veteran called this a necessary canon event
The creator labels this experience a “canon event.” He argues that getting “played” is a rite of passage for young men because it shatters the “Romeo and Juliet” illusion of easy love. It teaches them that real love really is hard to find, and rare.
According to his perspective, this heartbreak is necessary to teach men to “peep game” and remain vigilant. It also prevents them from being drained or cheated on in future, more serious relationships.
Is ‘never getting too comfortable’ actually good advice?
The creator concludes with a warning: “Never, ever, ever get too comfortable.” This advice is rooted in self-protection. By maintaining a level of emotional detachment, he believes men can avoid the sting of being blindsided by a sudden change in plans.
While this “lock-in” mentality can prevent immediate hurt, it can also lead to a “defense-first” dating style. It can prevent the genuine vulnerability required to form real bonds. However, in the context of early-stage dating where loyalty hasn’t been established, his advice serves as a practical shield against the “succubus” energy he describes.
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