‘The strangest part is that he’s going’: Man gets invited to wedding. Then he takes a closer look at invitation. Now his wife is speaking out
Weddings, while a joyous occasion brimming with love, can also be a hotbed of drama, tension, and tiptoeing, especially when it comes to the guest list. Couples have to compromise on which distant cousin will get an invite, whether kids will be allowed, and discuss the controversial topic of plus ones.
One woman was the victim of the latter after her husband received a wedding invitation. The kicker? Only he was invited.
Weddings: What did the invitation say?
In a viral TikTok, Michelle (@itsmichellesandland) asked her viewers whether she was the only one who found it “bizarre” that her husband received an invitation that didn’t include her.
“My husband is going to a wedding tonight and I’m not invited,” Michelle says in her clip. “Like he is straight up going to this wedding stag.” Cue the viewers’ alarm bells ringing.
While Michelle has heard of no plus ones at weddings for non-serious relationships, she didn’t think it applied to her and her husband.
“No spouses?” she asks incredulously, seeming flabbergasted that such a wedding rule existed. What viewers focused on, however, was less on the wedding rule and more on her husband’s decision to go at all.
In short, the consensus was that the husband attending was a giant red flag.
“The strangest part is that he’s going,” a top comment with over 300,000 likes read. Another echoed, “In no world would my husband go without me.” A third user added, “He should’ve declined. You’re married!”
The majority of Michelle’s commenters seemed to agree that her husband should have stayed home instead. Now, with her marriage under online scrutiny, it’s no surprise Michelle shared a follow-up to assure her followers that it wasn’t a big deal.
“My husband’s at a wedding tonight and I’m not invited and I don’t care about that part,” she begins. “I care that I can’t watch Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. We are watching it together.”
People didn’t buy her nonchalance, however. One called her video “rage bait,” while another speculated that her trying to be funny must mean she’s truly hurt inside.
“He went without you. Watch your show without him,” one urged.
Why wasn’t she invited?
When asked whether she knew the reason she wasn’t invited, Michelle replied, “Not sure if we still have the invite but he showed me texts between him and the groom where he asked to specifically clarify if I was invited and groom said no it was a numbers thing.” In another video, she reveals that the wedding–which was an old co-worker’s–was “small.”
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The husband speaks out
In a third follow-up video, Michelle’s husband speaks out in his defense. However, it didn’t do anything to stop the TikTokstigators from calling him a walking red flag.
“Are you joined at the hip with your spouse or do you have individual lives that you’re allowed to live?” he argues when Michelle asks him to address the vicious comments.
He concludes with, “I love being the villain.” Needless to say, no one but Michelle found that cute.
“The bar is in hell,” one wrote, while another penned, “‘I love being the villain’- I’ve always heard to BELIEVE people when they tell you who they are.”
Michelle did a couple of other videos defending her husband, but viewers still haven’t let her catch a break. Many are convinced she needs to divorce her husband, and she wouldn’t be the first married TikToker to receive this advice from some comments on the internet. In a story the Mary Sue covered, a woman shared the lunch her husband had packed for her. It included several questionable items, including dog food. TikTokers had a field day with her video, and begged her to leave her husband. She also shared videos defending him, clarifying that the lunch was a “joke.” But as one TikToker wrote, “OK. If that’s the joke lunch, where is the real lunch?”
The Mary Sue reached out to Michelle via TikTok direct message.
Update Dec. 12, 2025:
In an email to the Mary Sue, Michelle shared that her original question, which her clip posed, was about wedding etiquette in general.
“Whether it’s unusual for couples to invite someone without their spouse,” she explained. “It honestly didn’t cross my mind that people would focus on my husband going without me, because I didn’t have an issue with it. Looking back, I can see how the video could be interpreted differently than I intended.”
She said once her video went viral, it caused an intense reaction from viewers.
“A lot of people projected much bigger stories onto a very small moment,” she shared. “My husband has very dry, sarcastic British humor, which doesn’t always translate online, so when we leaned into some of the comments playfully in a follow-up video, that also didn’t land the way we expected for everyone.”
Michelle continued that the online scrutiny “hasn’t affected our marriage at all.”
“Being called a ‘red flag’ has just become a running joke between us, because it couldn’t be further from the truth,” she said. “If anything, it highlighted how quickly people project their own experiences and assumptions onto strangers online.”
“The biggest takeaway for me has been how easily social media turns a few seconds of content into a much bigger narrative — especially when it comes to women, relationships, and trust,” she concluded.
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