Woman Gets Dress-Coded at Work. She Says It’s Because of How Buff She Is: ‘Men Were Scared of My Arms’

When it’s the first day on the job, you’re expecting to learn the ropes. Breaking dress code isn’t on someone’s mind. For New Hampshire-based woman Lauren (@laurenpare1), her arms were allegedly the source of scrutiny.

The first slideshow photo is her, with text reading, “Rare POV: [you] get dress coded [your] first day of [your] internship because of [your] arms.”

The selfie showcases her in a black sleeveless vest with matching slacks. The problem? Her biceps are large and sculpted, the shirt enhancing her muscle definition.

Then, the second and last selfie of her flashing the peace sign explains why. “They’re making me wear sleeves tomorrow because the men are scared of my arms lmaooooo,” the content creator reveals.

“Men were scared of my arms. Literally told me my arms were intimidating,” Lauren reiterates in the caption.

Why Do Some Men Feel Threatened By Muscular Women?

Movement is a core element in human physiology, and building muscle strength is one of them. While it’s common for both men and women, the bulky physique is usually associated with men. Women who have a burly, athletic body defy the perception of femininity being soft and small, according to The Conversation.

But it’s not only the female form. A Psychology Today study found this aversion applies to other muscular men. Traditionally, men have constantly tried to one-up each other through strength and power, competing to be the top dog. Since muscles are a symbol, a man with this prowess poses a challenge to their dominance. Essentially, it all boils down to insecurity and fragile egos.

Viewers Side With Her 

Lauren’s photo slideshow garnered over 462,000 views, where many in the comments section jumped to her defense.

“I love you jacked Hilary duff,” one viewer commented.

“This is the flex you think it is,” another stated.

“Please don’t hide those arms, you worked hard for them and they look amazing,” a third complemented.

Moreover, others attempted to justify the business’s reason for dress-coding her.

“tbf I think most businesses would recommend sleeves for their dress code. you look great though,” one commentator proposed.

“Ask to see the sleeve requirements in the employee handbook,” a second suggested.

Did She Break Dress Code… or Experience Discrimination?

Companies can legally apply their dress code policies, and internships aren’t different. Although each business has different acceptable attire, there is usually a separate clear-cut dress requirement for male and female employees.

However, there is a fine line between enforcing these policies and discrimination. When the company imposes the dress code on one person and no one else, this is a form of discrimination under the New Hampshire Commission for Human Rights. It’s even more so on the basis of sex and gender identity. Those who experience this or any type of discrimination can submit a complaint to the same department.

The Mary Sue reached out to Lauren via TikTok comment and direct message.

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