Woman says ‘creepy’ delivery drivers would hang out in her parking lot. So she had to get creative: ‘Since doing that my deliveries come correctly’
For a lot of women, delivery apps come with a layer of stress that has nothing to do with missing sauces or cold fries.
Over the past few years, women have shared stories about drivers refusing to leave food at the door, lingering outside apartments, repeatedly calling for no clear reason, or using delivery access to cross personal boundaries.
In one case, a woman said her Uber Eats driver knocked for 10 minutes straight after she asked for contactless delivery. In another case, a woman claimed a driver tried to hug her and followed her toward her room. A third woman said drivers later searched for and followed them on social media after learning their name and address through an app.
For one woman on TikTok, the pattern became so uncomfortable that she decided to test a theory many women quietly talk about. And according to her, it worked immediately.
TikTok creator Rachel (@rachelhasmyvote) says she stopped having issues with delivery drivers only after she did this one thing. Her video, filmed casually from her bed, has gotten more than 86,800 views and struck a nerve.
What She Changed to Make the Problems Stop
“I have terrible, terrible news, y’all,” Rachel says at the start of the video. “The changing your delivery instructions to sound more like a man absolutely works.”
She explains that her issues with delivery drivers weren’t occasional or mild. They escalated to the point where she had to take formal action.
“I had had so many issues with delivery,” she says. “So, so many issues. To the point that I had had to call delivery services before and ask them to blacklist certain drivers from me specifically.”
The behavior she describes goes beyond awkward interactions.
“They were being creepy and hanging out in my parking lot for like an hour,” she says, “and trying to get me to come outside.”
Eventually, she decided to experiment. She changed her name in delivery apps to a man’s name. Then she rewrote her delivery notes.
“I’ve taken all of the pleases and thank yous and anything like that out of any correspondences I send,” she says.
Instead of friendly or conversational instructions, her notes became short and blunt.
“So now my notes sound really gruff,” she says. “‘Leave outside.’ ‘No contact delivery.’”
The difference was immediate.
“I have not had a single issue with any of my delivery orders from any site since doing that,” she says.
She adds that drivers stopped contacting her altogether.
“Since doing that, my deliveries come quickly and correctly,” she says. “And are dropped off in the correct place without the driver having to, for some reason, get in touch with me.”
She ends the video with a warning and a takeaway.
“Y’all stay safe out there,” she says. “It’s a crazy world.”
Commenters Say They’ve Done the Same Thing
In the comments, women flooded in with reactions that ranged from anger to recognition. Some were shocked by how clearly the change worked. Others said they weren’t surprised at all.
“So you’re telling me men are only idiotic assholes for deliveries on purpose because they hate women?” one person wrote. “TF is wrong with them?”
Another kept it blunt: “A lot of men hate women. It’s as simple as that.”
@rachelhasmyvote #delivery #instacart #doordash #grubhub #walmart ♬ original sound – Rachel The Almighty
Many commenters said they had already tried the same tactic and saw the same results.
“They would always be calling me for ‘help with instructions,’” one woman wrote. “I changed my name to Steven and it stopped immediately.”
Another added, “I have been Gregory for the past 4 months on everything, and Gregory hasn’t had a random call, knock, or stolen food since.”
Others said changing their name improved more than just delivery behavior. “I changed my name to a man’s name on Uber and they stopped canceling my rides and giving me low ratings,” one person shared.
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