‘I’m literally trying to do my job’: Couple walks into a bar, gives a bartender the worst time ever, then leaves her an infuriating message
And people argue bartending is an easy job.
We’ve all seen the “possessive partner” vibe turn a casual night out into a high-stakes psychological thriller. But for one bartender, a couple’s insecurity didn’t just ruin the atmosphere, it hit her self respect. Now, the internet is rallying behind her after she shared the absolute audacity of a note left where a tip should have been.
Bartender Taylar (@Taylar) took to TikTok to deliver a PSA that apparently needs to be shouted from the rooftops. “Your bartender does not want your man.” They want your drink order, your payment, and for you to leave so they can go home.
Woman gives the bartender a silent treatment after choosing to sit on her counter
According to Taylar, the vibe was “off” from the second the couple sat down directly in front of her. While she tried to provide standard service, the woman in the relationship allegedly refused to acknowledge her existence. We’re talking full eye rolls and the kind of frowning that usually requires a professional intervention.
When it came time to order fajitas, Taylar looked directly at the woman to ask the most basic question: “Chicken, steak, or shrimp?” But instead of answering like an adult, the woman whispered her choice to her boyfriend. Then, her boyfriend repeated it to Taylar. “She’ll have steak,” he said. It happened again with the tortillas.
That was the kind of “gatekeeping” behavior that makes you wonder if we’ve accidentally traveled back to the 1950s. Why can’t your girlfriend speak for herself? In fact, if you’re so worried a bartender is hitting on your man, why are you letting him speak to her instead of yourself? It’s confusing. And infuriating.
The receipt was the last straw for the bartender
Despite the awkward “middle-man” ordering system, the meal went by without a complaint. But the “twist” came when Taylar picked up the checkbook after they left. Instead of a tip for her patience, Taylar found a message scrawled in all caps: “STOP LOOKING.”
“Stop looking at what?” Taylar asks in her video, visibly baffled. “Your cul-de-sac-having toad of a man? I’m sorry, that’s disrespectful to toads.” She didn’t hold back, calling out the absurdity of being told to “stop looking” at a person she was literally required to look at to do her job. “I’m not looking at you. I’m trying to serve you.”
‘She’s just mad cuz you’re existing’
The video has racked up over 165,000 views, with commenters jumping in to roast the “paranoid possessive” behavior. “She’s just mad cuz you’re gorgeous & existing,” one user wrote, hitting on the likely root of the issue. Another pointed out the logistical nightmare of the request: “Stop looking? What? She wouldn’t speak to you. Are you supposed to look at the floor while you speak to him?”
The general consensus? If you’re so insecure that a bartender asking about flour or corn tortillas feels like a seduction attempt, the problem isn’t the bartender. It’s the relationship. The viral moment highlights the growing trend of seeing bartenders as desperate in the industry. But, the “customer is always right” era is officially dead. Guests who conflate “service with servitude” are becoming a liability for restaurants.
So, as a reminder to anyone who needs it: if a bartender is actually flirting with you, they’ll ask for your Instagram or give you a free drink. If they’re asking if you want the “least expensive” Don Julio Blanco, they’re just trying to close out their shift. So, keep your tips high and your insecurities at home. Oh, and maybe stay home yourself, too, if you’re out with the agenda to make a hardworking woman’s day a nightmare.
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