Woman agrees to date with man. Then she finds out he’s married and gets revenge: ‘He doesn’t know that I know’
We’re all having such a good time dating. People are acting normally, the apps have made the dating landscape so much better, and no one has any complaints. That’s for sure.
Just kidding! Dating has become a certified nightmare!
From dudes leaving their dates with $1,000+ tabs to them insulting the homes of women who invite them over, it’s especially not easy for the girlies trying to find true love. And on top of all the modern, new problems, a tale as old as time is still relevant: Sometimes, men conceal the fact that they’re married!
Enter Erizzabef Liz Nice, a woman who’s going mega-viral for sharing her firsthand experience with this phenomenon. Her story is unhinged from beginning to end.
‘I think we should jump him together’
In a video first posted on Mar. 1, Nice (@erizzabef) posted a video. It has since accumulated over 8.8 million views. In it, she explains how she got caught up in this wild situation.
Nice’s story begins with a guy she went to high school with reaching out on Facebook. He calls Nice’s TikToks “funny,” says he misses her, and asks to “get together and catch up.”
“I’m thinking to myself … ‘I know that you’re married’ because, you know, I’ve unintentionally kept up with him through the years, right?” Nice says in the video. “… I kind of forgot he existed but, you know,
as you’re scrolling, you see … he got married, he had a baby. They bought a house, they had another baby, they got a dog. How cool. So I’m thinking, it’s really weird that he’s reaching out to me at all.”
Nice considers asking him why he would reach out to her if he’s married, but she realizes she has a rare, golden opportunity: To expose a potential cheater.
“So I immediately reach out to the wife, and I’m like, ‘Hey, screenshot, what do you think about this?'” Nice recounts. “‘Because I think this is a little sus. I don’t plan on replying, but if you want me to do a little digging, I will.’ And she said, ‘Yes, because that is really [expletive] weird. Thanks for reaching out to me.
You need to figure out what the [expletive] is going on.'”
Nice proceeds to make plans with this guy for Sunday afternoon drinks, and his wife is aghast. But the two women continue to play along, wondering if he’d tell his wife about plans with Nice.
He did not
The wife texts Nice that her husband lied and said he was going to get drinks with “his cousin, his brother, and some old friends from school … all male.” Nice grimly responds that she and the wife “have [their] confirmation.” And the next phase of the scheme begins.
The wife instructs Nice to meet her husband as planned, and ask him about his wife whom Nice has seen on Facebook. She also asks Nice to “insinuate that [she doesn’t] mind that he has a wife”—all this, to see how he reacts. Nice expresses that she’s game to play along for a bit, but ultimately doesn’t want to keep this charade going for very long.
“I think we should jump him together,” she tells the wife. “I think we should approach him together.
And especially with you confronting him, I feel like it’d be great if you had somebody there with you,
because I feel like sometimes men can be a little bit crazy. Right?”
Ultimately, Nice and the wife agree on a plan—and they execute it.
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What ended up happening on the date?
Toward the end of her first video, and then in a second, post-date video, Nice takes her audience through the actual dramatic date. The wife ended up getting her parents to watch the kids, so she could wait for Nice’s signal to arrive on the scene and interrupt the date. Nice played her part as an “undercover spy” with aplomb.
So Nice meets the husband, whom Nice has heard, from his wife, has done shady things like this before. She gets flirty with the husband, as planned, and then goes in for the kill by bringing up his wife. He immediately starts waffling.
“‘My wife, you know … we’ve just been kind of going through some stuff lately,'” Nice says, quoting the husband. It is at this point that she starts recording the conversation. “… Then he starts talking about how, like, you know, ‘I know we’ve only been talking for like a few minutes now, but it just seems like you and I have a really good connection … I just don’t have this kind of stuff with my wife … She doesn’t seem to care about me … what she don’t know, don’t hurt her.”
At this point, Nice goes to the bathroom and texts the wife. She and Nice converge on the husband and the true confrontation. “A really tough conversation,” begins; long story short, the wife dragged him for filth for lying to her and is planning to leave him now.
“She doesn’t deserve that, you know, she’s better than that,” Nice finishes. “And she doesn’t deserve to be treated like that, you know? … And I’m pretty sure she’s gonna be leaving his ass, which, good. Good.
She should leave his [expletive] … We caught him red handed.”
How to know if a man is married
While Nice’s saga did obviously make for a deeply delicious story (8+ million views is no joke, to be sure), most people would probably prefer to avoid being in anything close to her predicament. Luckily, there are definitely telltale signs to look out for that could hint at a man being secretly married.
Divorce attorney Natasha Hastings writes for the Huffington Post that there are ten clear signs she’s noticed, in her experience, that point to a man lying about being married. The signs include the following: him paying for dates in cash (no paper trail); him having “severe restrictions on the times and places he can see you”; and you never getting invited over to his place. Hastings’ most divorce attorney-esque red flag to look for is when your man “says he has filed for divorce, but you cannot find an open civil case in any county within a one-hundred-mile radius.”
Relationship blog YourTango also echoes some of Hastings’ tips, but adds a few key points. To keep it short: If the guy you’re dating doesn’t save your name in his phone, refuses to tell you his full name or where he works, and/or won’t even give you his personal number in the first place, run for the hills.
The Mary Sue has reached out to Nice via TikTok comment.
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