‘I’ve worked with this company in Florida, Georgia, and here in Texas’: Dancer does private parties. Then she reveals what’s in bounds—and off limits
A midnight ballerina has revealed some of the things that dancers are willing to do at private club parties. She also revealed some of the things that some wouldn’t touch with a 10-foot pole, like ring toss.
Sherra Soto (@sherrasoto304) is the author of Daisy Does Dancing and a social media content creator. She shared her experience in a post with over 267,000 views. After experiencing the nightlife industry in Florida, Georgia, and Texas, she has multiple stories. Many are about what some private dancers do during business hours.
While she has witnessed some crazy things in the industry, Soto reiterated that many dancers don’t “go all the way” with clients at private parties. Soto’s experience seemingly caught the attention of many men who wanted to argue otherwise.
Soto’s experience at various companies
Soto works for a contracting dance company, which has led her to have employment in various states. Georgia, Texas, and Florida were among the places that she’s traveled to dance professionally at clubs. She worked private events for nearly 14 years.
In her TikTok, she mentioned that she has two different price points for these events. The contracting company usually gives her a flat fee, and then she charges for individual dances. She also had VIP rates that ranged from $200–300. She occasionally danced nude if she felt comfortable enough, but often opted to just offer simple dances.
But, during one particular outing, she witnessed something genuinely shocking. After offering her services at an Austin get-together, she had an opportunity to change out of her clothes and act as a customer as another dance company came in. That’s when she witnessed something she had never done in her line of work.
What is ‘ring toss’ at private parties?
Soto shared a particularly descriptive experience that she had after working a particularly busy private event. She said that during one party, men played “ring toss” with a glow stick that was inserted inside a dancer.
One night in Austin, Soto was dancing for a group of men who were, as she described, particularly attractive. It was a relatively normal evening. Until she heard that another dance company was to bring along another set of women for the evening.
All of the other dancers from Soto’s group ended up vacating at that point. However, the men asked if Soto wanted to stick around as a guest and see the next performance. She changed into her regular clothes and decided to attend to see how other companies managed their girls.
When the women from the other company showed up, Soto described them as “skeptical” of her presence. But they ended up warming up to her. They offered to play games with the men, which ranged from innocent drinking games to more scandalous ones.
“ I found out this is very common amongst like girls that work for companies,” Soto said. “Most of the games are pretty innocent, like drinking games, like hold, like a shot between their [expletive].”
But one of the games ended up being significantly less innocent. One of the women mentioned that they could do a “ring toss.” The “ring toss” consisted of the men throwing g-strings at a glowstick inserted inside a dancer’s “b-hole.”
How did the ‘ring toss’ end?
Soto participated in the game and, according to her account, “won.” But, she didn’t end up getting a “prize,” which the women said the winner would receive. “OK, I won… I was supposed to win something, but I guess, ’cause I’m a woman, they didn’t give me the prize.”
After the party, the women had to go around and pick up glowsticks using paper towels, as they didn’t know which one was used for the game.
According to commenters, the game’s not an unpopular one. It’s apparently played at other strip clubs in areas like Florida.
“Yep we did ring toss and every guy got taken care of, I live in Florida,” one commenter said. “There’s girls that do that… It’s just not my thing,” Soto added. “But I’ll make a video on it.”
Wait, is that even legal?
Technically, the “ring toss” isn’t illegal in most areas. For one, the “ring toss” game avoids certain legal restrictions across states like Texas, Georgia, and Florida. This is because customers or “clients” aren’t touching the performers in any way when playing it. That can technically make it less of a legal error, as there’s no “sexual conduct” under many state’s definitions of the term.
Plus, most dancers are paid a flat fee before they even walk into the room. That technically makes it so that customers aren’t giving them money directly, avoiding other penal codes and even county regulations.
Texas’ penal code states that “a person commits an offense if the person knowingly offers or agrees to receive a fee from another to engage in sexual conduct.” But, if dancers can avoid acts that are considered “sexual conduct,” they’re not breaking any specific laws.
Commenters argue that dancers ‘go all the way’
Many viewers emphasized that dancers would “do whatever the guest wants as long as they pay enough.” This is something that Soto disagreed with vehemently.
Soto responded to multiple of these commenters, reiterating her point. But a majority of the commenters on her post emphasized that they had either seen girls do “extra” at private parties or paid for it themselves.
“[It] all depends on how much money you wanna spend, every girl’s got a price,” one viewer said. Soto replied, saying, “Not every girl.”
Soto emphasized that she had never done anything like going all the way during parties, and while it is something that can happen in the night entertainment industry, it’s not a given. So, despite commenters claiming that “most go all the way,” there’s a good chance that’s not true.
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Interview with The Mary Sue
In an interview with The Mary Sue, Soto shared that games like the “ring toss” are fairly common at entertainment companies’ private parties. Dancers generally decide what they’re comfortable doing and are not typically instructed to do anything specifically.
“Some keep things very light and just dance, while others may choose to do more risqué performances depending on their comfort level,” the content creator said. “It really runs the full spectrum. In my experience, most companies present the entertainment but leave the specifics up to the performers rather than actively encouraging any particular type of activity, whether it’s something mild or more explicit.”
She clarified that one of the biggest misconceptions many people assume about stripping is that it automatically means that a person is an escort or offers sexual services. In her experience, that’s not what many dancers are going to work to do.
“The reality is that most dancers are entertainers. They’re there to dance, perform, and interact with customers, but there are usually clear boundaries around what is and isn’t part of the job,” she added.
Soto further clarifies what misconceptions exist
In her interview, Soto answered a few more questions about assumptions and misconceptions in the nightlife industry. For one, any assumptions that all dancers have the same level of comfort when working are misguided. Most of the sensational stories about dancers, including experiences like the “ring toss,” don’t necessarily reflect their day-to-day lives, either.
“In reality, that’s not the experience most dancers have. Like in any profession, there’s a wide range of people and boundaries, but the more sensational stories are the ones people remember,” Soto shared.
Soto added that some of the biggest misunderstandings come from assumptions about what dancers can or cannot do, as well as who they are. For instance, assumptions about dancers’ personalities—that they’re “trashy” or have serious personal issues—are often far from the truth.
“Many dancers I’ve worked with were in college, single moms supporting their families, or simply people who enjoyed performing and could make good money doing it. I’ve actually met a lot of very intelligent, driven, and professional women in the industry,” she said. “Like any other line of work, there’s a wide range of people and motivations, but the stereotype[s] people often imagine [don’t] reflect the majority of dancers I’ve known.”
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