Woman goes in bank with her husband. Then the 3 female bank clerks give him a sexist warning about her: ‘Like it’s OUR money. We are ONE’
A woman went to her local bank with her husband, only for bank clerks to make rude remarks about her in front of him.
According to Zoe Goulet (@zogoulet), “all three of the clerks” questioned her husband’s decision to put her name on his bank account. They reportedly told her husband that “she could take all of [his] money and run with it.”
Goulet responded by restating that she was his wife and that it was their money, not just his. Since then, many viewers have shared their perspectives, urging the couple to reconsider their bank due to what they described as the teller’s blatant sexism.
The TikToker’s video garnered more than 817,000 views as of Thursday.
Why did the bank tellers shame her?
Based on Goulet’s video, it seems that the tellers shamed her for wanting to be on her husband’s bank account. It was a joint decision by the couple, something they emphasized in the comments. Ultimately, the remarks were unnecessary in the context of the situation.
But bank tellers did have some information and insight to offer Goulet and her husband.
“As a banker myself, I wouldn’t word it like that,” one viewer said. “We do make sure the other person is aware that the person being added has 100% access. I have seen many times [where] someone [is] being added and they break up/ divorce. [Then, the] money is gone. [I’m] not saying that’s you… but we have seen it.”
It is true that when a couple has a joint bank account, both parties can make withdrawals and deposits. That means if one person were to take thousands of dollars out of a shared savings account, they technically could do so.
It is a common enough issue that there are hundreds of articles discussing the topic. Legal Clarity states that a financial institution is not responsible “at any time” for one person withdrawing all of the funds from a legally shared account.
From this perspective, it could make more sense why the clerks were warning Goulet’s husband about the potential risks of the situation as a way of preventing further issues down the line.
“Tellers are trained to ask questions and be kind of nosey to prevent fraud, they most likely just needed to confirm with [the] husband that is what he really wanted,” added another commenter. “You’d be surprised how many people don’t know what a joint account is/equal access for both parties.”
Are bank tellers noticeably more rude than in previous years?
Bank tellers may have more “audacity,” at least according to some recent interactions that others on the internet have had.
For instance, one woman went to a Chase Bank to get some documents notarized. The tellers proceeded to allegedly make fun of her height until she was near tears.
For many viewers, they also had trouble with bank tellers outright refusing to help them create joint bank accounts.
One commenter shared, “Omg! We did the same thing & the clerk (a woman) was like ‘are you sure you don’t want to keep a private account for yourself just incase’ and I was like “ummmm no I’m good.”
Commenters throw in their thoughts
The Goulet family found the comments rude and incendiary, especially considering that the tellers could have asked standard questions to determine whether Goulet’s husband was making the financial decision with the correct intentions. The questions, however, felt more like jokes than genuine concerns.
“I would’ve immediately asked to take all our money and investments out and went to a different bank. Tellers should be professional regardless of the situation,” said one commenter.
Surprisingly, though, some commenters agreed with the bank tellers, saying that it was Goulet’s husband’s money, not hers.
“No, it’s not our money. It’s his money if it’s his labor to produce the money it’s his money. Yeah, I would never put my spouse on my banking account,” added one viewer. Goulet’s husband, Macgregor Goulet, responded, saying, “She’s gonna carry OUR baby for 9 months then push out OUR baby in labor… way harder than any labor I’ve done. It’s her money just as much as it is mine.”
Ultimately, other people’s relationships and marriages are different. Some couples are more comfortable putting a spouse on their personal banking accounts or having one unified account. It can be a practical option for couples who share children or other living expenses and want to simplify their finances. For others, it can be a harder decision to make.
@zogoulet Like it’s OUR money. We are ONE!!
♬ original sound – kell yeah!
The Mary Sue reached out to the Goulet family via email for comment.
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