Atlanta woman starts dating man with ‘trust fund.’ Then she DMs his ex and learns the shocking truth about his money: ‘But did you get the Porsche?’
Most relationships start between two people who don’t really know each other yet, so you’re usually taking what the other person says at face value.
But not everyone in the dating scene is truthful or has the best intentions. One Atlanta woman says she learned that the hard way shortly after her divorce.
In her video, which has gotten over 830,500 views, TikTok creator Brittany (@britwithabite) shares the story of how she was “tricked” by a man she dated for four months.
What Did the Man Do?
“I don’t even know how to talk about this without crying,” she begins.
Brittany says her now-ex was consistent, “wine and dining” her, calling and texting every day, got along with her kids, and more. In the beginning, everything felt perfect.
“He was just an all-around great guy, and I believed it,” she says. “My family liked him. And my family usually, usually is the first one to be like, there’s something wrong with him.”
She says the man told her he was on his way to a Ph.D. in Psychology, and worked as an operations manager for the Atlanta Braves baseball team. He spoke about his family too. “’My parents are super wealthy, I have a trust fund’… all these things,” she recalls him saying.
Brittany says it felt unnecessary. “I’m like, why are you telling me that you have a trust fund?” she remembers thinking at the time. “That’s just weird.”
All of a sudden, things started to get more serious. “We’re together for four months, and he says, ‘I’m sick of driving an hour to you,’” she recalls. “He’s like, ‘I’m gonna look at land near you so I can start building a house and buy land.”
She says it was his choice, and his money, so she didn’t stop him from looking.
Things Start Progressing Fast
At this point, she thought everything was happening too fast. “And I’m like, whoa, slow down, dude,” she remembers thinking. “We’ve only been dating for four months.”
She says she was wary due to multiple heartbreaks in the past. “I’ve been love-bombed before,” she says she told her now-ex. “I don’t need to go through this again.”
Nevertheless, the man was not deterred. “Fine, but I think you’re the one,” the man told her. “I love your kids.. I want you to meet my family… This is it for me.”
She says that when she mentioned she wanted to get a new car, he made her an offer.
“Don’t finance a car, Brittany,” she remembers him saying. “You don’t want to be in debt.”
He offered to buy the car in cash and said she doesn’t even have to pay him back.
“And I’m like, why? Why would you do that?” she asked. “And he’s like, ‘Because you’re my person… It’s my job to make your life easier.”
She reluctantly agreed and started looking for a car, landing on a Porsche, which was his suggestion.
Then things take a turn. “Today comes around, and I’m supposed to meet his parents… tonight for dinner at 6:30,” she says. “At 6pm I’m not dressed for dinner. So you can probably guess what happens.”
What Happened?
When she woke up that morning, she says she received a long text message from him that says, in part, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about this for a few weeks, and there’s just too many red flags. This is final, and I don’t want to discuss it or debate it. I don’t want to continue this relationship.”
She was shocked. “The flip of the script was insane,” she says. “What’s going on?”
Brittany says the man never responded with additional explanation.
Then She Contacted the Ex
Brittany says she decided to reach out to one of the man’s exes after he suddenly went silent. While one didn’t respond, another agreed to speak with her.
“The things that this woman told me… if only I met her before this,” Brittany says.
According to her, the ex told her he “scammed [her] out of money” and [stole money from her], adding that “he does not have the money that he says he has.”
Brittany says much of what he told her didn’t add up. She alleges he works for the Atlanta Braves as a valet, while he told her he’s an Operations Manager.
She also says that while he told her he goes to the University of Georgia twice a week for classes, she never actually witnessed this.
“He would constantly fabricate things,” she says, adding that she realized “he was just one big lie.”
After hearing everything, Brittany says her perspective changed.
“I’m not sad anymore. I’m relieved,” she says. “I am so grateful that I talked to that ex. Thank you.”
Commenters React
“I can’t tell the difference between love bombing and being a good man so I’m clocking out of dating. You’re not alone girl!”
“Someone offering to purchase a car after 4 months is definitely a red flag,” another said while a third added, “Sometimes rejection is God’s protection.”
Brittany also repeatedly names the man in the comments section and later posted a photo carousel featuring his face. The Mary Sue has been unable to locate or contact him to request a comment.
What is Love Bombing?
According to Cleavelend Health Clinic, love bombing is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that usually shows up right at the beginning of a relationship.
Your date may shower you with compliments and gifts, start talking seriously about the future too early, or overcommunicate their feelings for you when they haven’t had enough time to develop.
When the honeymoon phase is over, however, there’s a switch, and they may feel insecure in the relationship, threatening, berating, isolating, and manipulating you constantly.
Psychologists suggest you pay attention to these signs, communicate them, and get out of a relationship if things feel out of control.
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