New York woman shares what her now-husband did on their first date. Why is everyone so pressed?: ‘Thank goodness he’s off the market’
Time to dive in on what the internet arguably does best: judge other people’s relationships. What’s getting all the buzz this time is one New York woman accidentally kicking the internet’s favorite hornet’s nest: who pays on the first date?
What she meant as a cute “look how far we’ve come” flex about her now-husband not covering the bill in 2019 has spiraled into a full-blown comments-section roast. From thanking her for “taking him off the streets” to advising her to “Take this to the grave, girl,” people are pressed about what they consider a first date faux pas.
Dating in the 2020s
If Mary Sue stories are anything to go by, the recent dating scene has been quite rocky. With dating apps and a post-pandemic world, the internet has come forward to share first date horror stories. For instance, the time a man refused to pay for a woman’s $5 coffee on a first date. Mind you, he asked her on the date.
Or maybe the time a man escaped the first date right in the middle of dining and left the woman with all the food, and of course, the bill. The Mary Sue has covered so many first dates gone bad, which many attribute to dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, or Bumble. Emily’s (@emily_hupps) story is throwing another stick into the fire.
Her TikTok has 57,000 views and almost 200 comments. As the video shows her getting a piggy-back ride from her husband, the text overlay reads, “In 2019 you’re going to match with a guy on hinge and he’s not going to pay on your first date, it’s very important you still give him a chance.” In her caption, all she does is tag Hinge. The comments, however, are the real story.
‘That’s So Embarrassing’
The TikTok viewers swarm Emily’s comments section to share their very strong opinions. One viewer says, “Thanks for marrying him so we don’t have to deal with this.” Another says, “I’m glad I have standards.” A third says, “Couldn’t water board this info outta me.”
Others inquire, “Is this ragebait?” Emily responds, “It wasn’t meant to be – I thought it was cute and silly because we laugh about it.”
One viewer sarcastically says, “Now you’ll be splitting the bill for life and doing all the work in the relationship. Congrats!!!!” Another ups the ante by saying, “We are so glad you got him off the streets.”
@emily_lupps ? @Hinge ? #newyorkcity ♬ original sound – certainlybee
Is Chivalry Dead?
In June of 2025, Mary Madagan from The New York Post reported that women view chivalry as obsolete, while men think it still exists. She took to the streets of Australia and asked opinions from men and women. Her conclusion? “Men think they are being chivalrous, but women say they just aren’t seeing it in their daily lives or, if they are witnessing it, they’re certainly not seeing enough of it,” she says.
Interestingly enough, this question has been brought up in both the r/AskMen and r/AskFeminists subreddits. In the former, one Redditor says, “Feminism killed it.” Another says, “Its not that chivalry is dead, its that its not rewarded.” In the latter, the Redditors responded that they didn’t need a man to do chivalrous acts for them, or that chivalry is part of the patriarchy. They just emphasize that everyone should be kind and equal to one another. As is the norm, the debate stays up in the air.
The Mary Sue reached out to the creator via TikTok direct message for comment.
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