Facebook Message Targets Girls Without Prom Dates — And Worse

Actually, all the worst bullying I got in school always came from other girls. There was one instance in high school where I overheard a boy saying that I had great boobs, but was too fat to be attractive, but that was nothing compared to the girls from jr. high school that made my life such hell that I wrote the first and only suicide note of my life. Not to defend the boys or anything. It’s just been my experience that girls can be horribly vicious to other girls so this doesn’t surprise me one bit if this kind of thing came from a group of girls.

And things like this just add to the long list of reasons why deleting my Facbook account was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made! Don’t regret it one bit.

Wow. I don’t remember there being any bullying in High School, but the girls at my middle school were MEAN. Thank God there was only instant messenger in those days and I could avoid them then. Actually, now that I think about it, there was that one time freshman year I got called a very nasty thing, but my friends on the soccer team made the guy apologize and I never got picked on again.
I don’t know what I’m going to do if I ever have children who have to face this kind of sh!t. Hopefully by that point Facebook and school systems will have figured out how to deal with this at least a little bit. If not, I guess I’ll urge them to join the soccer team.

At that age, didn’t you feel like other girls were, on some level, your allies?

No.

weren’t they people you could turn to when a boy is saying things like this?

…and no.

My experience, from grade school all the way up through high school, was that girls were invariably more cruel, more ruthless, and more insidious in their bullying than boys were. Boys might sneer at an unpopular girl, but it’s the girls who know where the other girls’ weaknesses are and how to exploit them.

It doesn’t make a whole lot of difference… Boys AND Girls can be insufferably MEAN to each other…
I put up with that all through Primary and Secondary School, and have the scars(psychological) to prove it… Not to mention the scars from years of therapy… Luckily, no brushes with the law, thank heaven…

I always had more friends that were boys, because it was other girls always perpetrating stuff like this.

Nah, the girls at my school ween’t too bad. The boys treated me with contempt and shite (bottom rung of the social ladder, woo!) – the girls just treated me with condescending pity.

My boys would’nt even tolerate this kinda crap from their friends,much less some associate from school.Sounds like some parents need to purchase some large,heavy,books on etiquette and manners.Place the tomes lovingly into a pillowcase,and promptly beat some respect into their children.

Boys only teased me in school. Girls openly bullied me. With the exception of one little douchebag of a dude in grade 10, it was always the girls who tormented me. Still, I generally get along better with girls.

Back in elementary school I was bullied but as far as I can remember (starting to think I’m repressing these memories since I don’t remember much) it was mainly one really persistent girl who nobody could make just stop. Didn’t really get along with the guys but there wasn’t any bullying, and then everyone was weird in middle school regardless of gender and then high school was fine as far as I know. So yeah, for me the girls were always much nastier than the guys.

I think a girl did it-they have better connected social systems, and they usually get this news first.
But yes, girls can be nastiest. Thankfully I was with a good group who supported me and wouldn’t let the bad stuff get through.

Mmmm, Daily Fail article. One of the most hateful (esp. of ‘youths’, ‘liberals’ and the internet), racist, sexist, homophobic and every other nasty -ic and-ist you can think of tabloids in the UK. What are they doing with this story??

Eugh, I’m going to have to give them a page hit, aren’t I?

“It appears as if information about the girls was taken off the class’s Facebook site.”

Wait… what?

Idiots. Daily Freaking Fail idiots. http://tinyurl.com/3dcnp9t ; “The messages, sent to numerous Ipswich High students on Sunday, are under investigation by the Ipswich police. The sender gained access to student email addresses through a Facebook account set up by junior class officers related to next month’s prom.”

Did I mention how much I hate the Daily Fail? They just want to throw dirt at Stalkerbook. The thing is; there’s plenty of dirt out there. The Fail are so used to making crap up they can’t find it within themselves to do some actual journalism and tell the truth for once.

Anyway…

Bullying is not a gender specific thing; boys and girls will pick on other boys and girls. It’s all about strength and weakness, and not the physical kind. Hell, men and women in the workplace (the grown up version of school) will bully other men and women and it’s not going to by physical bullying (sexual harassment being a different issue). To gain or keep an ‘alpha’ status people will try to show they are better than others. A bully is truly egalitarian in who they choose to help them show who’s boss; the only thing they are looking for is someone who won’t stand up to them, at least not very much.

This isn’t really an internet issue. Something like this is quite replicate-able offline; type it up, print it out, stick it up on lampposts and phoneboxes all over the neighbourhood. Same result, it just takes a little more effort.

As for allies in school; my friends were my allies, no matter their gender, age, race or religion.

Growing up, the girls were the bullies. Boys generally left me alone. But the girls…they could be down right cruel.

In High School, some girl I didn’t even know straight up coldcocked me in the hallway. In the fuckin’ throat, man!